The symbol for a 5th wedding anniversary is wood. These are to stand for the fact that the relationship is still sturdy and solidified through 5 good years together. For many people today, the 5th wedding anniversary comes only after five years together pre-marriage, meaning that you have no doubt endured almost a decade of getting to know each other. So…what do you think now?
Hopefully by year 5, your marriage is still new enough that the two of you are still trying to figure out each other just a little bit. You may have relaxed comfortably into one another’s idiosyncrasies or may be finding that certain personality traits are dramatically annoying. Either way, you have a long way to go and a bright future ahead. Like wood, you will age beautifully – especially if you take the time to take care of it, caressing it with polish, and refinishing it as time goes on. Like a fine piece of hickory, the more grains and knots in the wood, the more beautiful the marriage. If things aren’t as perfect as you wish them to be, realize that at this point in your life you are still evolving pretty quickly.
The next question is how to celebrate a 5th wedding anniversary? Keeping in with the wood theme, there are tons of things that you could do to make the day special. One of the most long lasting and perhaps meaningful could be to plant a tree together. It would be the rawest form of ‘wood’ available and the two of you will be surprised how quickly the tree goes as your life marches on. One day, it’s just a small tree in your yard and by the time you have grandchildren, the tree towers over your house providing shade and protection, much like your relationship. You could even choose different trees based on something meaningful to the two of you. Actually planting the tree together – from digging the hole to covering it over with fresh soil, is a soul liberating experience that you will remember forever.
There are also incredible wood gifts that you can have made or purchase to give to your spouse on this special anniversary. You do not have to spend a lot of money in order for something to be meaningful. A framed picture of the two of you, in a hand carved wood frame will do just fine. If that does not seem to fit your tastes, then opting for wood baskets, wooden wine bottle holders or any small trinket made of wood will do just fine. Since it is the anniversary of wood, another idea is to invest in some furniture together. Choose a room in your home that needs some remodeling and go shopping for some furniture that will last you a lifetime. This way, as more time passes and it is hopefully paid off, you will have a family heirloom to pass onto your children and beyond. Imagine looking back from your 50th wedding anniversary and remembering the furniture you bought together 45 years before!
Another novel idea, sticking with tradition would be to take a mini vacation to a dense forest. If you are the outdoorsy type, then planning a mountain getaway, adorned with either a cabin for your comfort or a site to put a tent, the two of you could have a completely traditional and romantic vacation together in the woods. Plan your days hiking among nature and wrap a small pile of kindling with a red bow so the two of you can enjoy a romantic evening by the fire.
The modern 5th wedding anniversary gift is silver. This leaves you wide open to exchange perfect gifts engraved in silver or to follow modern traditional and invest in some wedding silver! Silver is a beautiful long lasting gift that you will treasure forever.
The whole point of an anniversary is to reaffirm your love for one another and take a minute to show appreciation for how much you have learned about one another, marriage, and your love. People change. Just because you got married some five years ago, does not mean that you are that same man or woman. One of the beautiful things about marriage is that most people evolve and grow together. Sure, there have been struggles along the way and perhaps even times when you question your choice in a life partner. But the true test in a marriage is not what brings you apart, but what keeps you together.
Use your anniversary to truly have some private time together. Your life has probably changed drastically since you first said your vows. Make a list of all the things you love about your spouse and try to find millions of things to be grateful for. Make sure you share with one another just how happy you are and how much your spouse means to you. Whether you give gifts of wood or silver – make sure you take the gift of time to truly be together on this day, making it a day you will never forget. Looking ahead to the next anniversary and beyond, you can easily forget where you came from and where you are going. Often in marriage, a couple doesn’t truly see what they have or had together until the fast paced, stressful and often blur of life comes to a screeching halt in retirement. Take the advice to cease the day and steal as many moments together so you can truly be the best couple possible. Happy Anniversary.