Too often having an overbearing spouse means that they’re getting their needs and wants met at the expense of the other partner. This is no good in a relationship where both spouses are supposed to be getting their needs and wants met by the other equally.
Rest assured, if you pay attention to these little things – you will end up with the best wife in the world. She will feel lucky to have you in her life, and will treat you like a King.
Being late. Wives don’t always understand what it means to be on time. And although women believe that they know exactly (down to the minute) how long it will take to get from point A to point B, they rarely allow time for traffic lights, small emergencies (like a broken heel), or traffic.
There may be happy marriages, solid marriages, and healthy marriages, but the concept of a marriage made in heaven is totally absurd.
Snoring. Leaving the toilet seat up. Neglecting chores. Driving styles. What to watch on TV. What to have for dinner. Noisiness. Certain time-consuming and/or expensive hobbies. This is the stuff of petty arguments in marriage. Like a trickle of water that slowly erodes a rocky cliff, petty arguments can diminish a happy marriage over time.
What if our marriages were as honest and open as Jim Carrey in Yes Men. Imagine if you will, for just one simple moment, what would happen if your spouse could hear the inner chatter that normally has you biting your lip. Would your marriage last? Would it be better or would it be worse?
Think back to your wedding day and try to remember what you were thinking and feeling. What were your expectations then? What did you think that your life would like after the “I Do’s” were said? Did you ever imagine that your life would be the way it is today?
Is making a bed or putting dirty clothes in a hamper really that hard? Is it so difficult to throw things away in the trash rather than stuff them under the couch cushions until the 3rd of each month when the maid will lift each up to see what lies beneath?
To date, there have been numerous reports about how housework, i.e. washing dishes, and vacuuming as some form of therapy. In fact, there have been numerous wack-job female celebrities who have been quoted to say that housework is therapeutic for them.
Robert Buchicchio (MSW, LICSW, DCSW has a BA in psychology from University of Rhode Island and an MSW from Ohio State University.
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