Accusing Someone of Cheating

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  1. Helaina says:

    I like this article I would like to ad to it alittle about the change of habits though because you see I changed my habits as far as my getting fixed up for the day because I started getting asked where I was going when I put makeup on or wore something that was a bit nicer so instead of hearing the accusation inbthe question I just didn’t for a while but then decided ifvivwant tofedl pretty. Put make up on for myself I going to now it’s thought it’s because some guy fried is coming or has come by it’s always for anyone but him. And the fight is on I try on t togrybupset by the accusation which are notsaidvin a outright manner but hinted to and you know what is being said and frankly it’s gotten to be where I’m accused anytime I leave the house and it takes longer than he thinks it should. I’ve told him he’s gonna lose me im loyal h has been cheated on by others and I just got out of a relationship where I was accused constantly but was completely faithful and in love. And it hurt to lose someone over their crazy thoughts. That you can not change I am a 49 year old woman and need security and stability and honesty in a prior relationship I was cheated on. And my gut new it but I realy had no proof so I asked and of course deny deny deny we broe up because I could not bare to live with the thougt that he was with her when I could not reach him or didn’t hear from him when the irregular patterns came and went he eventually had to unburden his life of the lie so as t be set free it was an energy thing for him as well as a nessassary thing for me to fully have trust in my own git feelings a relief for all I guess . so yes I relate to every part of this article but would also like to ad a bit about women and the changes they go thru as they age sex drive lessens fatigue and a poor self image as the effects of gravity start showing and of course men are going to be concerned if the frequency of there sex life has dwindled yes I realiz it goes both ways and let me also ad that some effects of abuse from child hood abuse do manifest in adult years . I can speak for myself and say. I have come to realize I Har dley ever am the iitalizer if sex . I’ve always been that way and was that way when I started dating the man im with now nothing has changed from then to now but this is one of his reasons for the accusations because I don’t come seeking it and often am not on that level. And then ad to it the daily fight as to wether I’m faithfull although not pu t directly to the point it’s not a turn on for me and dies nothing but harm my feelings as far as wanting to be intimate. why when I fact he can’t really love me because that involves trust and there is not for me from him. I’ve questioned his faithfulnes only because I now the ol if your not cheating but being accused perhaps it the accuser who’s the cheater . at any rate I’ve gone on much to long and I hope my insight can bring some understanding to any troubled relationships that should not be. Oh let me ad that just because youre adds a stop or two to their agenda does not mean the y are cheating noe dies it mean they have lied or had plans to make the other stops before it just means they thought of more things needed to take care of if you have to explain every detail of your day before it happens to your mate there is no trustv and it almost becomes a type of control we should not have to have control over another nor be controlled in order to be loved .show love and faithfulness and trust and also you should have a basic level of trust for the person in your life they should not have to prove their trustworthy in order to be given trust .although if they have given reason showed behavior which broke the trust then yes that trust must be regained otherwise why destroy you days with negative thoughts that your mate might be doing instead think about what the effects of having complete trust in them ei dofor how you treat them speak to them and how it will affect their interactions with you please let this help some one.

    1. David says:

      You might have saved my mind. I already accused her of cheating because she was always on her phone talking to others and she didn’t wear makeup for a long while then she got sick of being controlled or stuck as she says and started hanging out with people. Mainly a guy friend whose married happily but if we argued she needed space to hang out with him and she said it’s because she has nowhere to go. We live with 2 older people and she has no job and has to pay rent by cleaning. But my gut was always going off. Always telling me something is wrong. I don’t know what it was and cheating seemed to fit the entire scenario. I never found proof but I know guys hit her up all the time Because she’s beautiful. Its just hard to ever know..if she w as hiding it she’s so smart ..also because of my trust issues we broke up she decided giving me information fed the paranoid wolf in me so she blocked me on Facebook and locked me out of her phone.
      Is she really screaming for privacy or is she cheating? It comes off as secrecy and I just get lost in the I accused her and we broke up. My hopes was that she would halfway beg for me back or say no I don’t want to break up but she’s so hard headed we compete. Of course she wins the game there and it becomes a psychological fuck. So I decided that if I’m causing her stress or pain I need to let her go. Of she’s cheating on me I need to let her go. I just need to let her go.
      Never knowing wjats true. Not sure if I could ever know the truth. Not sure if I can ever trust her. I wish I just had the ability because I’ve never loved anyone like her. I guess there’s standards set and I’ve got to let her go…

  2. sam says:

    ive been accused of cheating but am absolutely innocent. I didn’t respond in anger or defensiveness but it broke my heart. Because I knew i was innocent i sided him emotionally and tried to support him because he was so hurt. i wish i would have gotten mad or even walked out then. He has a past of cheating people and i thot I would be able to show him I was different. Especially since i knew i wouldn’t ever do such a thing. we have came to a truce about it but deep inside me i feel like i am crumbling. We were perfect and I just want that back. I am thinking about going to counseling about it but not sure it will help

  3. Tierra says:

    My ex boyfriend accused me of cheating while I was out of town for work which I absolutely did not. We were on the verge of trying to make our relationship better (which I realize now that I should have not tried to do) as in the past we had some turmoil with trust and slight abuse. But at the time I was so blinded by it all and made to think that it was all my fault for all the issues that I felt guilty and wanted to do anything to make it work (Crazy). But back to the accusing. While gone on my work trip I made it my effort to communicate with him as I knew he really didn’t want me to leave in the first place. One night I decided that I didn’t want to just talk on the phone, but to do a video chat so that we could at least see each other, because I missed him. So we both decided that we would download Tango. Well, prior to us doing the video chat I called him on the phone to see if he was ready to get the video chat started and he said that he was at the liquor store buying a drink. So I waited a few minutes and then called him with the video chat. Not to far in our conversation we kept having disconnection issues and would have to keep calling each other back. He kept saying that my video was coming out blurry and reacting slow on his end, so I would constantly try to fix my connection. Well apparently during all the commotion he took a screenshot of the video chat of me which was extremely blurry and claims that he saw an image of a guys private part in the front of my face while I was video chatting with him. I couldn’t believe it, as I know for a 100% fact that I was not in my room with anybody. Then he sends me texts degrading me as a person saying that he is going to cheat and all of this mess. I was in complete shock. When I got home we had a bad argument about it to the point where he ended up putting his hands on me, and even after all of that I still went back, trying to prove my innocence, but he still believed that I was cheating. I tried to have the blurry screen shot image that he took cleared up and no one that I reached out to could. I was so desperate to prove to him that I didn’t cheat I offered to take a polygraph. But after a few days of sitting back and replaying the situation, I realized that the relationship that I was so desperately trying to save was not worth it. I should never have to go through all of that to prove anything. If he really cared and loved me like he said it would have never got to this point. So we ended up breaking it off, and he still believes that I cheated. But at the end of the day I know I didn’t. I just wish I would have handled being falsely accused better, because I put too much energy into defending myself when his mind was already made up.

  4. Ed says:

    This is happened to me and we just broke off last few days and we have been together for 6 years and 9 months relationship. It’s just broke my heart and i just accept what he want maybe that is the best for him. I know what his accusation to me its not true at all but what can i do if he keep accusing the things that i never do. I need to accept and just pray to god.
    Just sharing my story and thank you.


  5. David says:

    You know , I read this and don’t feel better still. Unfortunately, I accused my gf on and off of 6.motnhs of cheating with no proof. But I don’t need any . I’m no fool. She changed her number and invited a coworker to stay at her place. Then she would argue with me and leaves for anything. Hoe could I find proof ? she lives alone and she doesn’t show me amything. Then she broke up with me 3 weeks ago after I accused her. Instead of talking. I have. otherwise heard from her since. She changed her number. Because the guy she was seeing , is keeping her just fine.

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