IF you are thinking about or facing a divorce, it is especially important to look at the divorce as a time of change. To look at it as a beginning rather than an end. Just because two people get divorced doesn’t mean that everything they shared together including the happy times, was all for not.
With every ending comes a new beginning. There are better things awaiting you. Maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. You will find your soul mate soon enough. Every door that closes opens a window. The list of ridiculously philosophical lines of comfort that you will be offered by every Tom, Dick and Harry in your life as you find yourself ending a relationship truly does not make it any better.
If the relationship is not worth saving in you or your spouse’s mind, then it probably isn’t worth the efforts by either of you to try and move beyond an affair. But even if you both agree that the relationship is worth saving, you still need to both be willing to put in the efforts to make healing happen.
Perhaps one of the most conflicting issues when dealing with death is that the after life is such a mystery. Regardless of religious beliefs, or spiritual beliefs – the black unknown that occurs after we die is something that no one can explain.
In order to answer, you must know what ‘average’ is. For these answers, we look back to the 2010 Durex Sex Survey. According to the survey, married folks have sex an average of 98 times per year.The New York Times however, says that the average couple has sex an average of 58 times per year.
Planning a white wedding – or any type of wedding for that matter – imposes one cardinal rule: time. When you’re getting married, the last thing you want to do is race against time and end up a total wreck on your wedding day. Plan early. We’ll say it one more time. Plan early.
Barbara Jaurequi is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Nationally Certified Master Addiction Counselor. Her private practice, Barbara Jaurequi Counseling, is in southern CA, about 30 miles east of Los Angeles.
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