If one spouse feels that they have the right to humiliate or embarrass their spouse in public (or in private) what exactly does this say about the marriage itself ?
In 1955, the movie The 7 Year Itch was released giving some plausibility to the reality that perhaps after 7 years of marriage, something psychological sets in, and marriages are tested and tired.
Her dream vacation is to sit Oceanside with a good book in her hand, while listening to the waves rush into the shore, margarita in hand – enjoying the solace of life without conversation. His, is a trip to Vegas staying up all night taking his chance at the Black Jack table and spending the days cruising the strip on his Harley. Should this married couple take separate vacations?
Some people seem to have a high sex drive that keeps their bedroom antics alive several times per week, while others are lucky to get in a quickie once a month. And of course, there are thousands of relationships that are suffering from a lack of sex so long over due, that a deep valley of physical and emotional disconnect has formed that neither partner knows how to bridge.
What happens when you say or do something that your significant other thinks is wrong – but you feel is right? Then, what happens when you hold on the stance that you are not apologizing, no matter what – because you don’t feel that you did anything wrong?
Let’s review the four ‘C’s more specifically. The basic definition of ‘C’ number one, Contentiousness, is a spontaneous tendency to be argumentative. It’s natural and necessary for married couples to argue sometimes. But when couples are contentious, they are inclined to argue unnecessarily.
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Robert Buchicchio (MSW, LICSW, DCSW has a BA in psychology from University of Rhode Island and an MSW from Ohio State University.
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