5 Signs You’re Being Used by a Man

Being used by a man isn’t just about sex. Men will take advantage of women for their money, emotional support, and more.

There’s nothing worse than being used by a man. Users are what I call “wet kittens.” You take them in, they pee on your rug, and then they leave without saying goodbye and without reason. They’re also hard to spot because they don’t show their true colors until you’re firmly committed, and once you’re in a relationship with one, he’ll be nearly-impossible to shake until he has sucked the life out of you!

There is no excuse for staying with a man like this. Read the tea leaves below, and if he’s guilty of more than a couple of these, send the wet kitten to the shelter!

Sign 1: He has relied on your income for a month or more.

Unless you’re married, there is absolutely no excuse to carry a man financially. And by “carry a man,” I mean you’re paying for more than just a night on the town every couple of weeks. If he can’t pay his phone bill, rent, or some other critical item, it’s time to reassess your status with him. Even if he gets laid off from work, a guy who truly likes you would be horrified to ask you for money. He’ll either step up and find another job before his cash runs out, cut back on his expenses, or both.

Sign 2: He is proud of what you have—and wants to show it off to people.

Wet kittens are drawn to people who have what they want. This could be something as small as the new iPhone, or as large as a penthouse on the Florida Keys. A user will want to date you solely for the purpose of dating someone who has those things. Consider it like raising your status without having to do anything at all. If you’re dating someone who has everything you want, it’s the next best thing to having it yourself. This isn’t always about possessions, either. Status can come out of being famous or well-known for something, too.

Sign 3: He only calls when he’s having a bad day.

If you’ve noticed the guy you’re dating only calls when he’s frustrated, depressed or horny, it’s a huge warning sign you are being used by a man. Quality men in relationships aren’t always on the lookout for an emotional handout, so if you notice this happening a lot, you need to take a stand and talk to him about it.

This is by far the most difficult type of user to get away from. Sometimes these individuals are mentally unhealthy and will actually rely on you as their emotional support because they can’t find it anywhere else. At worst, these individuals will make statements like “I would kill myself without you,” or “I’d be lost if I didn’t have you to talk to.” This compounds your own guilt feelings and prolongs the relationship for months—if not years.

Sign 4: He doesn’t listen, doesn’t make plans, and can’t remember your birthday.

A user isn’t thinking about you until he wants something from you. He’s not going to care about your feelings or wants because it means he has to take action and do something for you. If you feel like you’re being ignored, or he seems conveniently busy on days that are special to you, it’s time to see the dude to the door.

Sign 5: You have the suspicious feeling that you’re the only one taking responsibility in the relationship.

Relationship duties are ideally split right down the middle. You’re both paying the bills and you’re both cleaning up around the house. It doesn’t always work like this of course, and you have to take your own situation into account. But if you feel as though you’re always working and he’s always lounging around or doing something fun, you need to address it.

All relationships have issues with this, so don’t automatically assume you’re being used. Talk to him first to find out how you can split the workload better. If he only puts up a token resistance, but agrees to help out more, you’re fine, but if he argues with you and tries to switch the blame, you may want to take a closer look at your relationship.

If you’re here, chances are you already suspect you’re being used by the guy you’re dating. My best advice is to ignore all of the emotional responses you have for the guy—just put them out of your head—and look at it from a logical standpoint. What does your intuition say? Are the scales pretty even or do you feel like you’re the only one actually putting effort into the relationship?  If so, it’s probably time to break it off for good.

The wet kitten is a unique critter. To better understand him, download my free infographic! You’ll never be fooled again!

Author and dating/life coach Gregg Michaelsen has sold over 250,000 books with multiple #1 best-sellers. Being both a dating and life coach gives him an incredible advantage with the people he touches. He helps women gain confidence and understand men and encourages his readers to contact him for free in his books. Gregg’s motto is Build Yourself and He Will Come. Visit Gregg at WhoHoldsTheCardsNow.com and join thousands of believers!



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