Many women experience a shift after becoming mothers. They may find motherhood monotonous and, in a moment of spontaneity, go out with friends and return with a new nose ring or a small butterfly tattoo on their hip. These choices can briefly remind them of their “wild and crazy” past, proving they’re more than just diaper-changers and nose-wipers. Some may have been drunk for the first time in years, unsure of their actions. Others come to motherhood already tattooed or pierced—some with regret, others with pride. The question is: Are tattoos and piercings appropriate for moms? The answer, like many in life, depends on personal opinion. What do you think?
Today, tattooed and pierced parents are common. Look at Angelina Jolie, for example. Tattoos and body piercings, forms of body art since Neolithic times, were once reserved for society’s elite. Western society has since embraced them, moving beyond the 1930s stigma that tattoos and piercings belonged only to military men or circus performers. A 2008 MSNBC poll found that about 14% of American men and women had at least one tattoo or piercing.
Interestingly, tattoos and piercings aren’t just for rebellious college students anymore. Tattoo artists report an increase in clients from all age groups. For many, these modifications express individuality and allow control over their bodies in a fun way. An ABC News video highlighted that 35% of women aged 25 to 40 have tattoos or piercings commemorating their children. Rather than marking a drunken night or a fleeting teenage romance, these women choose tattoos that celebrate something lasting: their kids. What’s wrong with honoring your child in such a permanent way?
Are Tattoos and Piercings Mom-Appropriate?
With tattoos and piercings becoming mainstream, they’re increasingly accepted. Decades ago, a tattooed mother might have faced harsh judgment, but today, perceptions have shifted. A Gallup Poll found that 68% of people don’t view tattoos or “decent” piercings negatively. However, heavy tattooing or extreme piercings can still draw criticism.
Still, are these choices mom-appropriate? Traditional images of mothers, like June Cleaver, evoke innocence. How do you discourage your daughter from getting a piercing or tattoo when you have a nose ring or a dragon tattooed across your thigh? Parenthood often involves “do as I say, not as I do,” but you’re still setting an example. What if your tattoo or piercing embarrasses your child? Would you want to discuss their school performance with a teacher while sporting an extreme piercing? While society is more accepting of body art, not everyone shares that view. Your choices may be judged as an extension of your child. Is this an opportunity to teach your child about individuality, decision-making, and resisting stereotypes? And what happens when your child sees your nose ring or nipple piercing and wants one themselves—or brings home someone with similar modifications?
Fortunately, today’s moms are breaking free from stereotypes, making appearance choices without facing strict judgment. This is empowering for women and promising for future generations. To decide if a tattoo or piercing is appropriate, consider whether it reflects who you are and the example you want to set for your child. Ultimately, others’ opinions don’t define your parenting. A tattoo or piercing doesn’t make you a questionable parent. In fact, if it brings you joy, it might make you a better one—because a happy mom often means a happy child, tattooed or not. And if you change your mind, there’s always tattoo removal.
