Men talk. In fact, many men talk more about sex and their relationships than most women, and there’s this silly rumor that men can pick up on subliminal clues about whether or not they’ll be getting it that night. The biggest flaw in this line of thinking is that few men can even pick up on the clue that the trash needs to be taken out (yes, even when it’s overflowing on the kitchen floor), but suddenly, they’re psychic experts when it comes to sex. This just proves how a man’s mind works.
One of these myths is that a man can tell by the type of pajamas his woman wears to bed whether she’ll be ‘in the mood.’ If she’s all zipped up in a footed sleeper that makes her look like an overgrown infant, sex is off. However, show a little skin—perhaps a nightie that keeps falling off her shoulder and is a tad too short—and sex is definitely on! The hilarious part is that some men actually believe the pajama theory, among others. Could it be that a man simply tries harder when his mate turns him on in sexy lingerie than when she’s wearing a sleeper? Everyone knows men are visual creatures, so it could be that the sight of their lover in something homey and matronly just zaps the energy right out of them. Theories like this make it obvious that men still don’t know much about women.
What Really Determines if She’s in the Mood
First of all, women have the same amount of sexual cravings as men. Sure, they get their periods once a month and feel bloated and gross. Perhaps a better indicator of whether a man will be getting it or not is to look in the trash for tampon and pad wrappers rather than worrying about her pajamas. For most women, this is just not the most fun time to participate in lovemaking. However, other than that, men can do pretty well—especially if they remember that foreplay and doing the dishes can go a long way, both in and out of the bedroom!
The second thing is that while men think sex is the perfect apology, women don’t feel that way. If you’ve just had a heated argument, especially one involving a sensitive topic, chances are she won’t be in the mood no matter what she’s wearing. And just to make things harder on you, there’s a good chance she’ll spitefully wear the sexy pajamas without underwear just to shoot you down!
One thing men are right about is that there are plenty of signs that indicate a woman is not in the mood for sex. A headache is always one of them, although research shows that sex can actually be great for curing a headache. Some women just suddenly don’t feel good around the time the kids go to bed, which is another way of saying, not tonight, honey. Another indicator that she’s not in the mood is after having dinner or spending a lot of time with HIS mother—especially if he’s a mama’s boy. This is never a good time to assert manhood. If she keeps trying to get away from you, continues cleaning, or reading her book, a man should leave well enough alone. There’s nothing more irritating than finally having some quiet time to read a great book, only for it to be interrupted by innuendos and obvious signs that he wants to make love. Isn’t that what those girly magazines are for?
If you ask a woman how her day was and she responds with sweat on her brow and complaints about the monsters you call kids, anything that resembles procreation is off! After a tough or bad day with the children, the only thing sex does is remind her how she got pregnant in the first place. However, what a man can do when he notices this is allow her to run a bubble bath, bring her a glass of wine, send her out with friends for drinks, or do anything that lets her escape. When she gets home, or after she’s relaxed and the kids are all tucked away in bed, she might just be more turned on than ever before. And believe it, it won’t matter what type of pajamas she’s wearing. In fact, hire a maid to clean the house, do the laundry, give her $100 to get her hair done, or make any other gesture that shows you want her to feel wild and free—and you might be surprised how sexily she responds. Your chances of ‘getting it’ just might improve! Again, this has nothing to do with pajamas.
One thing men seem to forget is that many women want to feel sexy. They want to be seen as attractive creatures, whether they’re wearing fuzzy pajamas or not. They want a man to see beyond the fact that she’s getting older, perhaps has some “junk in the trunk,” and take steps to make love to her emotional side before her physical side. One reason many women lose the urge for sex is because it becomes so monotonous with men. What happened to the kissing, the massaging, the lying together naked and talking—or dare it be said talking? For a woman, it’s hard to feel intimate or even desire intimacy when she hasn’t had a decent conversation with her partner in a very long time. And to be honest, if sex only lasts around 10 minutes before the kids barge in or the man is satisfied, it seems like an awful lot of work to slip on sexy pajamas for such a short time when she could be comfortable in her regular pajamas the whole time. Heck, she might not even have to take them off completely! So, comfy pajamas are not an indicator of whether you’re getting it tonight. If the answer is no, you might want to spend more time worrying about other things than what the woman in your life wears to bed!
