Years ago, women were the only ones cringing in embarrassment at television advertisements for ‘private’ products interrupting their favorite sitcoms. There’s nothing quite like sitting down with the family for a few primetime laughs and suddenly having to explain period cramps or vaginal dryness to your 5-year-old. Today, however, the embarrassment has come full circle, with primetime ads now targeting personal problems that men experience. Along with explaining the birds and the bees to your kids, you’ll also be figuring out how to explain what Viagra is.
All joking aside, erectile dysfunction (ED) is an extremely common issue for men, characterized by the inability to get or maintain an erection, and even premature ejaculation. According to WebMD, around 18 million men are diagnosed and treated for ED each year. The problem is that no one is talking about it. Most men experiencing issues with their manhood are not keen on rushing to the doctor or discussing their concerns with colleagues. Women, who often complain about lackluster sex lives because the experience ends prematurely, are unsure how to approach their partners and discuss the issue without hurting their pride.
Erectile dysfunction has many causes, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Sometimes it’s linked to medications being taken, hormonal imbalances in the brain and nervous system, or other medical conditions. ED can also result from injuries or surgeries, and lifestyle factors such as drug, alcohol, and tobacco use can contribute as well. In some cases, issues with the prostate, such as prostate cancer or low testosterone levels, are the cause. The truth is, ED—and any changes in your erections—should be treated as a warning sign, prompting you to visit a doctor for tests. Your inability to ‘get it up’ could potentially save your life.
It’s important to understand that while an erection is a physical response, it is actually produced and maintained in the brain. This means that a man may feel attracted to his partner but still lose an erection if there’s a miscommunication between the brain, nervous system, and reproductive organs. ED isn’t necessarily a sexual problem or something to feel embarrassed about—it’s a medical issue that requires attention. There’s no shame in seeking help, whether for the man or the woman involved.
So, what can you do about erectile dysfunction?
The first step is to talk about it. You and your partner may be in denial, or you might be worried that the issue is a sign of a bigger problem in your relationship. But the truth is, the relationship may have nothing to do with the lack of intimacy; the cause could very well be a medical condition. If you’re experiencing ED, chances are your partner is dissatisfied as well. Instead of avoiding the issue or defensively denying the problem, try to investigate the cause. According to the Mayo Clinic, many men who seek help from a doctor find a clear-cut answer and solution within just two weeks. The good news is that by being proactive instead of remaining in denial or making excuses, you can alleviate the stress and diminished self-confidence that come with ED. You can also search for a local doctor who specializes in ED treatment—just hope they don’t have a female receptionist! Typically, you’ll see either your primary care physician or an urologist, depending on your healthcare plan.
Depending on the cause of the issue, most doctors will prescribe one of three medications to treat ED. These are the medications you’ll likely see advertised in mainstream media: Viagra Connect, Cialis, and Levitra. It’s crucial to note that these medications can have side effects and may not be suitable for everyone. This is why you should never seek out illicit treatments advertised online without consulting a qualified doctor first. In addition to oral medications, there are other treatments available, such as injections, which can help with ED. For severe cases, options like penis pumps, surgery, or implants can offer a long-term solution, enabling you to enjoy a healthy sex life again.
Erections are important—not just to men but to the women who love them as well. While ED can feel embarrassing, the truth is, it’s more common than you might think. One of the worst consequences of not addressing erectile issues is the mental toll it can take on men. Many suffer from depression, anxiety, and stress as a result. If there is a way to fix it, it’s a win-win for everyone involved. Chances are, if it’s bothering you, it’s bothering your partner too.
