How to Tell Your Wife You Want a Divorce

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All men are different. If you are wondering how to tell your wife you want a divorce, chances are you won’t find a script that makes the “event” painless or easy! No matter how much a wife dislikes her husband, or how many times she has dreamed of hearing those exact words, she will hit the roof when her husband tells her he wants OUT! That’s just how wives (and women in general) are. It isn’t because her husband is irreplaceable or the most amazing man she has ever met, but because most wives spend a lot of their married life trying to accommodate, please, and work around the “misfit” man in their life to make the marriage tolerable. Then, suddenly, HE WANTS OUT! The wife is simply upset because she wishes she thought of it first and because she is the one being dumped!

There are many men who don’t sit around thinking about how to tell their wife they want a divorce; they simply make it a point to show her! They act disrespectful and rude, purposely unattractive and slovenly, and even stretch their necks to peer at other women. They might open the door for a woman at a restaurant, walk in behind her, and allow the door to close on their own wife. Some men begin leaving the bathroom door open in the mornings and become so intent on turning their wife off that they may even ask her to bring them extra toilet paper if they’re running low. They may shave with the sole purpose of leaving little irritating and gross hairs in the sink basin, rather than doing what “normal” husbands do: rinse them down the drain.

If none of these tactics work, they might take it a few steps further: staying out all night without calling, or not showing up for lunch dates. They may leave phone numbers for other women in obvious places around the home or start sleeping on the couch for no apparent reason. When they notice that you’re upset, instead of ignoring it, they’ll pay attention to it—anything to open a can of explosive worms that might lead to a conversation about divorce! Others act passive-aggressive and accuse their wives of wanting a divorce, punctuating every argument with, “Why don’t you just divorce me if I’m so terrible?” To which the wife is actually considering. There are husbands who will stop cutting the grass, helping in the kitchen, or spend an outrageous amount of money just to irritate their wife. Other husbands may take the opposite approach and begin crying, sobbing, or going on about how they don’t deserve their wife! While your wife might think you need Prozac, she will also take it as a compliment that, finally, you’re realizing her worth in the marriage!

Honesty is Key

Unfortunately, most men, especially husbands, aren’t that great with words. How to tell their wife they want a divorce is something they never want to talk about. They begin to think an affair might be the way to get the message across, so they have one and do whatever it takes to get caught. This can backfire and isn’t really recommended, because most women decide to be angry at the other woman rather than their cheating husband! (It just depends on the wife.) So, really, what is a man to do when simply saying “I want a divorce” isn’t an option, making his wife miserable doesn’t seem to work, and the whole affair thing leaves him with yet another hysterical, emotional, and sensitive female to deal with?

How about honesty? Rather than worrying about how to go about asking for a divorce, why not just do it? Men are probably the world’s worst communicators; they either overthink or underthink every conversation in their lives. They don’t want to make their wife so mad that she won’t invite them for “break-up” sex, and they definitely don’t want to end up like a member of the Bobbitt family. They likely have a special spot in their hearts for the woman in their life and don’t want to be the one to break her heart, especially since she was the one who picked him to make it whole.

Chances are, if a husband is no longer interested in being married to his wife, she already knows it and feels it. In actuality, setting her free—whether she realizes it at the moment or not—does her a favor and gives her the opportunity to be loved the way she deserves! Women, especially wives, are strong, and very few people want to stay in a relationship where they are no longer wanted, appreciated, or loved! So, how to tell your wife you want a divorce? Don’t bother with a guilt-gift of jewelry or taking her to a fancy restaurant. Don’t leave hints or become mean and resentful. Don’t try to make her hate you (because she won’t), and learn to be honest, forthcoming, and truthful in the way you talk to her. After all these years, she at least deserves that in this situation.

Just sit her down and tell her the marriage isn’t working out for you. She’ll want to know why, demand to know what she did wrong, and probably cry the kind of cry where her shoulders shake. She will feel devastated and experience a new kind of grief. She might throw things at you, scream, yell, or break a dish or two (which is why you shouldn’t do it in a restaurant). But it’s because, to a woman, being asked for a divorce feels like a failure. For this reason, when considering how to tell your wife you want a divorce, make sure you spend more time considering all the wonderful things she was/is as well. Take that moment to remind her and reflect on your life without her completely. Often, ex-wives can make great friends!

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