I am a Mom. I Mean Taxi Driver and Bank Teller

dropping daughter off at school

The soft, cuddly moments of pregnancy or having a baby in the house are an irreplaceable part of parenthood. These feelings prepare you for the often stressful, sometimes overwhelming events that begin when your child starts walking. From their first step, children strive for independence, moving away from their parents. This shift brings significant responsibilities and costs for mom and dad.

By the time your child reaches school age, you’ll realize you’re more than just a mother. When asked about your job, you might say, “I’m a mom. I mean, a taxi driver. Or maybe a bank teller. No, wait—a hairdresser and short-order cook!” You’ll accumulate so many roles on your life’s resume that you’ll be amazed at how well you manage them single-handedly. Early in parenthood, few realize the diverse skills required to raise children. While you may feel like “just a mom” now, in a few years, you could be a softball coach, a teacher, or learning something entirely new to support your child’s growth—surprising even yourself with your talents.

The good news? Parents ease into this multifaceted role gradually. It begins with small tasks, like picking your child up from school a bit late for an after-school art workshop. Soon, you’re driving them to playdates at friends’ houses miles away. Before long, you’re signing them up for T-ball, hockey, ballet, or gymnastics. Practices start at one hour a week with minimal cost but quickly escalate to two or three sessions, with expenses doubling or tripling. One day, you’re buying a leotard or a new bat; the next, you’re footing the bill for uniforms and costumes that cost more than your entire wardrobe.

Escalating Demands and Hidden Costs

School systems also ease parents into this lifestyle. In kindergarten, you provide hand soap, crayons, and markers. By first grade, the supply list grows. By second grade, you’re paying for $50 field trips to the zoo—ironic, considering a family zoo outing costs the same. Then there are school parties and festivities, always requiring donations of food, drinks, or cash.

Fast forward a few years, and your children are asking for money without explaining why. They expect you to chauffeur them around town to friends’ houses, after-school activities, tournaments, games, recitals, and shows—often disrupting dinnertime or requiring you to leave work early. The constant cross-country trips drain your wallet, which seems to thin by the minute. You may find yourself spending more time driving than sleeping in your own bed.

Reflecting on the past, you might recall when your baby just wanted to be held, when constant touching left your skin raw, or when you longed for your child to gain independence so you could use the bathroom alone. Now, you have that independence—at a cost. Instead of begging for playground trips or asking you to watch them perform a silly trick for the millionth time, they’re texting you from their bed while you’re in the bathroom, asking for yearbook money or if a friend can come over—or if you can drive them to a friend’s house for the weekend to do who-knows-what while spending more of your money.

Looking at your life, you’ll see you’ve been a mother, but also a taxi driver, an ATM, a nurse, a 24-hour short-order cook, a counselor, and a teacher of subjects you never knew existed. You’ve been a cop and a private investigator, a cheerleader and a coach—all at a steep personal and financial cost. You might feel you’ve lost the intuitive parenting touch that came so naturally when your child was a baby. But the truth is, your child will remember these years since babyhood more vividly than the nights you rocked them to sleep. Your efforts bring joy to both you and your children. So, hold on for the ride and try not to worry too much about your thinning wallet.

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