Comments on: It’s None of Your Business Mom

By: Konohanna

Konohanna — Thu, 27 Jan 2022 00:29:55 +0000

I’ve tried all…. none has worked. I love my mother, she just feels it’s her duty to worry about my bills, life, what I spend on, where I go. I’m 42, own a business for the past 20 years, married, divorced, married again, oh and built a house WITH CASH at 20…
I’ve explained to her as an adult that I do believe I’ve figured this out and if I needed help or assistance with anything I’ll let you know. Then she throws in “oh I wanna be your friend” to my response was…. do you ask your friends these questions, do you make them feel this way, Because I don’t think you do… so don’t do it with me… still hasn’t changed ANYTHING!!
What am I supposed to do!!?!?
I’ve tried the stay away from her but it causes division with the rest of my family. My sister her hubby and kids. This is just beyond me!! Any other suggestions?!?!

By: Anon

Anon — Tue, 29 Dec 2020 01:43:35 +0000

In reply to Susan. I agree with you, Susan. My mom wasn't a good mother either. We are not close and I prefer it that way. My brother and sister tell her everything. They are both in their forties and refuse to grow up. I'm the middle child and I'm the considered the level-headed one in a dysfunctional family. After my father passed away when I was a little girl, the structure of our family just fell apart. He really made a bad decision in marrying her...

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 09 Aug 2017 00:49:29 +0000

bother s/b brother. excuse me

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 09 Aug 2017 00:48:05 +0000

Great advice on the Butt-inski mother. My mother took my sister and her daughter in for 4 years, rent free. Now that my sister’s son is back in her life (away at school), my sister needs to find an apt. All she can afford is a small place for the 3 of them. My mother disapproves of the space size. I told her she is crossing boundaries. once she told my sister and niece to leave, the rest is none of her business.

Parenting is raising a future adult. The adult child is the finished product. Do a good job, and then relax, and enjoy your family. Your kids will no doubt make mistakes. Let them learn or even fail at life.

My mother was never a good mother to any of us. Now she is reaping the results. My bother doesn’t talk to her, and is a wealthy a-hole, and my sister is a flake. I’m the white sheep, but was always the outsider, i.e. black sheep. I’m happy to be the abnormal one, in a dysfunctional family.