I’m 12 years old and when I asked my mom if I could wear mascara she was like, “No way, you’re way to young. Act like a kid.” My mom said no but I do chores for money and anytime I’m in Walmart etc. I’ll say I need to use the bathroom and I’ll buy mascara and put it on at the restrooms at school. Moms can’t control us as much as they think they can…

I get it. I’m 11 too! I’ve talked to my mom about this and she automatically says “no”. But she tells me that “you don’t have acne” or “makeup will make it worse” but I know if I get gentle, light makeup it will be good. I say you should try makeing sure that your mom knows that you only want light makeup. Over the years, you can slowly ask for more and more as you get older. That’s my plan ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

just tell her that you’d not feel as confident as of the moment and light makeup would really help you be boosted
and just reason with her

First talk about confidence and self-esteem, and how you feel about yourself as a person. Then ask her for some advice on what you can do about it your main goal is to do something that will help you feel better about yourself. If she doesn’t mention makeup, then bring up how you would like to start practicing how to enhance some of your features and cover some of your imperfections now that you are getting older to the age where you’re going through changes emotionally and physically, and how it would make you feel better as a person. Ask her about what she thinks about you wearing makeup, and make sure you state how you understand the makeup choices must be appropriate for girls your age. Don’t be too pushy on anything, and bring up the subject casually, while being open to yes or no because she can always say no right away. Just be patient, and show that you are mature enough for it. As you are young she may not take you seriously in the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about makeup and an 11 year old is “rushing or growing up too fast” so you have to be ready emotionally for the conversation as well as if you do receive permission to wear makeup. You will get the time to do everything you want with your appearance when you are older, you just have to be patient. Your time will come.

I personally think that black lipstick may look a little mature for a 13 year old, just because it will make you look much older than you are like almost an adult. And that’s not always a good thing. Everything has its time and place, and even though that’s something you want to do, there’s always going to be time to do it and in the meantime you are of age to ask about some other forms of makeup that is more appropriate for girls your age. Black is a very dark color, so it may not look very good on you had such a young age. Just be patient and start off with lighter makeup, you’ll get there eventually.

Maybe try showing her a video of natural makeup you are considering wearing. Explain to her that you understand what all of the products are used for and why you want to apply makeup, or what is your main goal of doing so. Also tell her that you know less is more and show her that you are mentally prepared and mature for this and that you’re doing it for the right reasons. Explain to her that you do not want to look too grown up and that you would like it if she would help you find out if the video you showed her is appropriate and good for you so that you guys can make a compromise and agree. Show that you understand her place as a mother to place judgment and make certain decisions on what is allowed and what is not, but also give your opinion in the situation and don’t be afraid to explain yourself. And remember that natural is better especially for younger girls… Because it will be a start to your makeup journey, as your mom will most likely consider allowing you to wear it if it’s not too much makeup cakes on your face to make you look much older than you are. You’ll get to a full face of makeup, but first start off with something simple just to get some mascara and lip gloss in your hands.