Agree and I can careless about what others think it’s not nothing serious

You sound like a complete moron! Of course if you’re just with someone just to have a fling with you’re not going to tell him about your kids if you know you’re just with him for a short time. This article talks about serious relationships not friends with benefits.

Because I don’t want to be a mother, I don’t want to be a stepmother or stepgrandmother. I put this in my profiles but so many single dads get so offended. At least though they are being honest they have kids, I have met guys who claimed no kids only to find out they are dads. Luckily these are short but what if they weren’t? They are liars and what else are they lying about, perhaps a long criminal record or that they are still married?

There is no reason not to be honest. Sure it might turn off people but it’s better to turn off people not compatible than date months, even years, become serious to the point of talking marriage/long term then spring this on them and see hurt.

Hello Kenny I agree totally to your comment.To lie about your children is crazy and that would make you question what kind of mother is she.And it goes both ways.I can’t never trust anyone that lies.I can’t trust a man that lies about being married and his children.I can’t see myself staying in that relationship.Sorry I don’t have a pic so you can see who is messaging you!I see this post was year “2020”.

For example, take the part where it says, “Maybe you do find the love of your life online, or while you’re out on the town. Say you don’t want to mention your kids to said person for fear of scaring them away. But, what if you gave them the benefit of the doubt and assume that they’re a decent human being to begin with?”

It’s setting a premise that, in this regard, a decent human being would be open to dating someone with children & if not they must not be a decent human being. That’s ridiculous! Perhaps the person wants to start their own family and doesn’t want one that’s not ready made. That’s their right.

Part of the problem is that there’s an attitude of entitlement with this stuff. Single parents, like any other adult, are not entitled to a mate whether short or long term. Getting angry with those who choose a person with no children and using manipulative means to get someone shows that they’re terrible people. You can’t expect anything substantial to possibly grow if you only see people as utilities and not actual people. Yes, if you have to resort to lying/omitting info and using other means of manipulation to get a date/mate then you are foul. How can someone get to know the real you if you lie?

For me, it would be a turn off if a woman I met lied about not having children. Not only would I look at her as a liar but I’d also question her love for her children. That’s a disrespect to her children. If a person truly loved their kids they wouldn’t act as if they didn’t exist. I wouldn’t want a woman like that as a potential mate. Children are a blessing and didn’t choose to be here. Terrible to lie like that.

At the end of the day, people have to learn how to have self love and be comfortable with who they are and where they stand. While I don’t prefer women with children, I have respect for a woman who may show interest but is upfront. It shows me she has integrity and loves her child/children. Liars I have no respect for.

Terrible outlook on life smh.