Ivory. Not ebony, but ivory.
Ivory seems to be the predominant color chosen by brides marrying for the second time. There’s no rule in any etiquette book dictating the color of your second marriage wedding dress, but ivory seems to be the favorite. For example, type “second marriage wedding dresses” on eBay, and 99% of the dresses are ivory-colored. We spotted one white dress, but that was it. The rest were ivory. But why would women want to sell their second marriage wedding dress unless they’ve fallen on hard times (“I married a pauper, not a prince”)? We think it’s the one piece of wardrobe that shouldn’t go back to the market and should instead be passed down to a daughter.
Things to Consider
The first question that comes up is: Is white acceptable for a second-time bride? Most definitely. As we mentioned, there’s no hard and fast rule about what color to wear when you’re walking down the aisle a second time. White no longer symbolizes virginity—that was eons ago. It actually signifies joy, so if you find a dress you love and it’s all white, we say, go for it! It will be your dress, and you’ll be the one wearing it, so don’t let others’ opinions sway you.
However, if you’re having a very formal celebration, your bridal dress must match that formality to a T. Don’t show up in a long, white gypsy skirt that looks like you’re about to dance the salsa. A bridal dress that embodies quiet elegance and class should be perfect for a formal wedding, regardless of its color.
It would be a shame not to wear the dress again, especially if you paid a hefty price for it. Consider opting for a cocktail-length formal dress or a classic suit that you can wear on other occasions. You don’t need to wrap your second marriage wedding dress in silk paper and store it in the attic for a decade.
What’s your body type? This deserves careful attention. Just as you want your second marriage wedding dress to highlight the best features of your body, you’ll also want it to be flattering to your figure. If you’re tall and slim, you can pull off nearly any cut or style. But if you feel your body doesn’t fit the “ideal” mold, you’ll want to think carefully about this. For example, if you’re petite and pear-shaped, there are styles designed to downplay height and roundness. If you’re unsure, bring along a close friend for a second opinion. And when you go for a fitting, make sure to wear the right undergarments so you can get an accurate idea of how the dress will look.
Some second-time brides wonder whether it’s appropriate to wear a blusher—a veil that covers the entire face. The general consensus is that the blusher is reserved for first-time brides, though a wedding consultant says that if the occasion is formal, it’s acceptable to wear a veil that flows along the back. Otherwise, second-time brides may want to consider a hat or a special hair ornament that will accentuate their facial features.
Trains are also acceptable—again, use your discretion. The rule is K.I.S (Keep It Simple), and the dress should match the formality of the occasion.
Millions of people get married every year, and new wedding dress designers seem to pop up every minute. Styles are abundant, and with the internet, wedding boutiques, and independent consultants available, you’ll find plenty of suggestions if you have any doubts.
Tips for Choosing Your Second Marriage Wedding Dress
- Timing – Once you’ve set the date for your wedding, start planning for your dress right away. If your gown will be designed and sewn by a special designer, allow at least six months before the wedding to accommodate fittings and adjustments.
- No rushing – Avoid cramming multiple wedding boutiques into one day. By the time you try on your third wedding dress, you’ll likely be fatigued. The selection can be overwhelming, so take your time and only try on gowns when you feel relaxed. Making a hasty decision because you’re tired isn’t good planning.
- Sales contract – Before you sign any contract and make a deposit, ensure you fully understand the terms and conditions. This includes specifying the delivery date, color, number of fittings, and the cost of alterations. Whether you’re buying your bridal dress from a boutique, designer, or wedding warehouse, always read the contract carefully to avoid unpleasant surprises.
- Professional opinion – If you’re working with a professional, they’ll give you honest advice about how the dress looks on you. A dress may look stunning on the rack but completely unflattering once you try it on. Much depends on your figure and how the dress was constructed.
- Legal technicality – A reputable seller will not hide any information about the dress’s manufacturer or designer. They’ll usually provide this information willingly, along with proof. If they don’t, be cautious. The law requires that sample wedding gowns must display labels indicating fiber content, country of origin, care instructions, and the name of the distributor. The manufacturer’s registration number must also appear on the label.
And If It’s Casual…
If you’re getting married on the beach, in the jungle, or on a glacier, there’s no need to fuss over your second marriage wedding dress. A gown with a long train is unnecessary in these settings, right?
And if you were to ask us, “Should my bikini be white or ivory?” we’d probably give you a good-natured whack!
You have family, friends, colleagues, and your tennis group to ask about second marriage wedding dresses. If it’s casual, it’s almost a moot point, so just go with the flow!
