Single Versus Married Life – Pros and Cons

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The grass is always greener, right? When it comes to the debate between single versus married life, it’s hard to be objective. Both lifestyles have their pros and cons at different times, and they both require a different mindset to fully enjoy. Married people often wonder what it would be like to be single again, while single people spend countless hours searching for their soulmate. So, which is better? Ultimately, you will have to decide that for yourself. The lesson here is to enjoy the life you have while you have it, and appreciate who you have it with. Things can change in an instant, and sometimes, getting what you wish for isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Let’s start with the married side of the single vs. married life battle. Marriage definitely has its advantages. There’s no more hunting for the perfect date; you get to finally build something with someone who has made a commitment to you. You can settle into the routine of knowing what to expect from your day-to-day life. Plus, you can relax and be yourself, so to speak. Sitting around in sweatpants is definitely more comfortable than the clothes you wear when you’re trying to impress someone enough to marry you. Gone are the days of pretending to like certain things or acting a certain way (when you aren’t), because your spouse will quickly learn the truth. You also gain a certain level of respect from others, as marriage is often seen as a rite of passage into adulthood.

Other advantages of married life versus single life include two incomes, which can make it easier to get the things you want in life. You’ll always have someone to wake up to in the morning, to wish you a happy birthday, and to spend the holidays with. There will be someone there when you come home in a bad mood, and someone you can vent to without fear of them holding a grudge. Married life often offers a natural transition to having children and provides a way out when you’re invited to do things in life that you’d rather not. Another benefit is that, while sex may not be as frequent as you’d like, it’s not something you have to chase after. If you’re in the mood, chances are there’s someone right beside you who will oblige. One of the nicest things about married life is having a partner. If the marriage is stable and healthy, having that person in your life can make you feel stronger and better equipped to take on the world.

Single people don’t have it so bad either

You can’t debate married life versus single life without mentioning one thing that single people have, and married people do not: FREEDOM! The freedom to come and go as you please without needing to explain yourself. The freedom to hang out and get drunk if you want, without worrying about someone getting upset. The freedom to have a one-night stand just because you think someone is attractive. The freedom to buy whatever you want, with no one to say “no.” The freedom to be as clean or messy in your own home as you wish, without worrying that your makeup on the sink will become your husband’s pet peeve. The freedom to have a bed all to yourself, to not have to listen to someone else snore, and the freedom to sleep however you want without sharing the covers.

Single people are also not as tied down to one place as married people. If a single person gets an amazing job offer on the other side of the country, they can jump on it without consulting anyone else or considering how someone else might feel.

The cons of both lifestyles differ from person to person. If you’re in a bad marriage, single life might seem like a dream come true. Likewise, if you’re struggling to find someone to share your life with, you might feel lonely and frightened no matter how successful you are. The key to weighing the differences is actually enjoying the lifestyle you have, while you have it.

There is also one constant in the single versus married life debate: you. Just because you get married doesn’t necessarily mean you change who you are. You might change in certain ways and learn to compromise, but the person you’ve always been is still there. Often, it’s how you view things that changes. In a good marriage, most people wouldn’t want to go back to being single. In a bad marriage, people long for the freedom of being single. When you’re single and living your best life, the idea of being tied to just one person might seem like a nightmare. Yet, if you’re single and lonely, the thought of having someone to grow old with feels like a breath of fresh air.

It seems to be human nature to always think the grass is greener on the other side. Perhaps that’s why it’s so important to live life by your own standards in every moment. Carpe diem! Seize the life you have and squeeze all the good out of it so that you don’t spend your future regretting decisions or missed opportunities. And even then, you’ll still look forward and backward, as if your brain is swinging like a pendulum in both directions. Eventually, you’ll settle somewhere in the middle, able to enjoy the ebb and flow of life and remain both grateful and optimistic about what your future holds—whether you’re single or married.

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15 Responses

      1. E, And most women nowadays are really into other women instead. I know a few other single guys that had their ex wives leave them for another woman. Go figure.

  1. I am married to a mentally ill man. He has NYD. I am leaving him and he doesnt know it yet. I was happier when I was single, so yeah I think being single is better.

  2. I have been married 30 years. In Retirement you learn one certain thing: Do I like my spouse? I do and he does! If you have spent time learning if your future spouse is a great friend even your best friend then you can make an educated decision on pursuing a marriage for Forever. If the reason you want to marry is the “feeling you have had only with this person” or “the sex is great”, and you don’t necessarily “like” him or her, do you both a favor and Break Up. When you connect with a friend and lover that you enjoy spending time with, you will have a potential spouse to love, honor, and respect for your forever..

  3. The real problem is though, there are so many single women these days that have their very high outrageous unrealistic expectations and standards. And with most of these type of women nowadays that are also very high maintenance, independent, which they don’t need a man anyway, gold diggers, since they will sleep with much older men just for the money, very greedy, selfish, spoiled, picky, narcissists, and the list goes on and on. Well that certainly makes it very difficult for many of us good single men meeting a good woman today that isn’t like that at all. Doesn’t It? Well i would certainly say so. It is just too very bad that women weren’t like the good old days when most women back then were the very complete opposite of today, and real ladies as well since meeting the right good woman to settle down with would’ve made marriage great since it was really much easier meeting women in those days. Nowadays Feminism is everywhere.

    1. Wait, women are narcissists? Sir, look what you just wrote. I am a naturally independent, self-sufficient woman. I am having a hard time guessing at when you think “the good old days” were, but are you talking about the times where women were oppressed, and beaten when they spoke out of turn? Because of the patriarchy, women in the “good old days” were conditioned to behave “like a woman,” which even that saying is bull because there is no defined ideal woman. Women are different, some independent, some people-pleasers, some outgoing, others quiet and we should celebrate our differences instead of bashing “today’s women,” and praising the ones who were forced to submission. Furthermore, women do need to know that they don’t need a man to validate them, in fact no single person should feel like they need “another half” to complete them. However, marriage can be a beautiful, refining thing for those who do find someone they want to live life with ALONGSIDE them. I have a feeling that you may have had the weight of feeling like you need some sort of validation in a woman, or companionship in marriage that you haven’t been blessed to find yet. In that case, I’m really sorry for you, and I hope you are able to undo the thought patterns in your head that have brought you to that conclusion. But, if you are just being misogynistic and mad about the badass women who are unapologetically putting themselves first, then I’m praying for you, sir.

      1. Well FYI, the other guy who wrote that comment really very much nailed it altogether. Women today aren’t like the past at all unfortunately. They’re very nasty, stuck up, and have no manners and personality at all either when it comes to many of us single guys trying to meet a half way decent normal woman now. There will be times when these very pathetic women will even Curse at us for no reason at all when we will just say good morning or hello , just to get a conversation going. What is up with that by the way if you really are that smart? In fact, i know other single guys that had women Curse them out as well for no reason. So as you can see why it is very extremely difficult for so many of us single guys that really do want a very serious relationship today to meet a good woman for us since they’re really no where to be found these days unfortunately. And there are many of us good guys out there that can treat a good woman with a lot of love, respect, and be very committed to just only one woman as well. It is most of the women nowadays that just don’t want a relationship anymore at all, and that is why most of us guys are still single now because of the very big change in women today altogether. That is why love was a lot easier to find in the old days since most women were the very complete opposite of today, and a great deal of marriages did last very long as well. Our family members were very extremely lucky when they met one another back then, and that is why overall the married life will always be way much better than the single life since it really does have so many advantages. Well you gave that guy support, and many of us other guys need just as much support too. Peace.

  4. It’s better to be single ,, marrying is overrated,,,, people change right after marrige,,, then that’s when the real person shows up,,,, then you got to accept the whole package ,,, meaning marry their nosy ass family members and friend,,,, thus those nosy ass members interfer with the marrige tring to dictate and give unwanted opinion on situations,,,,, nine time out of ten the wife/ girlfriend/female blabs about their problem between her and her mate. ,,, then you got to try to get alone with people from the spouces family specially when someone brings up ,, religion, and politics, at the dinner table,,,, dealing with nosy ass sisters,, and unwarrented comments ,,,,,, Now of course,, in the marrige unless your a successful proffessional athlete ,,then that’s ideal because each side of the family likes you,,, kissing your ass ,,,but marrige is tough the romance wares after 2 yrs then it’s a f—king investment,, Marrige today vs in the bible ages are totally diffent,,, In my opinion life is simpler single hood

  5. Who would want to grow very old all alone by themselves all the time which isn’t fun at all, especially without family and children.? Very obvious why married men will always live much longer than many of us single men.

  6. Well there are certainly much more advantages being married with a family, especially if you’re very committed, loving, and caring to one another which then the chances of your marriage would really work out as well. When you’re single which then there are so many disadvantages, especially if you have no family and friends. Plus growing old all alone can be very unhealthy and depressing, and when you decide to leave the house to go out you will be always alone no matter where you go. Overall the married life really would be the way to go, since you can have sex anytime you feel like it.

  7. When you look at all the low life loser narcissists and feminists type of women that are everywhere nowadays which is why MGTOW has become a real lifesaver now.

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