Single Versus Married Life – Pros and Cons

The grass is always greener, right? When it comes to the single versus married life, it is difficult to be objective. Each has its pros and cons at different times and they both certainly take a different mindset to enjoy. Married people often wonder what it would be like to be single again, while single people spend countless hours searching for their soul mate. So, which is better? In the end, you will have to decide that for yourself but the lesson here is to enjoy the life you have, while you have it and who you have it with. Things can change in an instant, and sometimes getting what you wish for is not all its cracked up to be.

Let’s start with the married side of the single versus married life battle. Marriage definitely has its advantages. There is no more hunting for the perfect date. You get to finally start building something with someone who has made a commitment to you. You can stay home and start enjoying the routine life of knowing what to expect. In addition to that, you can take your makeup so to speak. Sitting around in sweat pants is definitely more comfortable than the clothes you wear when you are trying to impress someone enough to marry you. Gone are the days of pretending that you like certain things or are a certain way (when you aren’t) because your spouse will learn the truth quickly. You also start getting a certain level of respect from other people in this world who seem to see marriage as a rite of passage into adult hood.

Other advantages of married life versus single life are two incomes, which can make it a lot easier to get the things you want in life. You will always have someone to wake up to in the morning, to wish you happy birthday and to spend the holidays with. There will be someone there when you get home in a terrible mood and someone that you can take out your frustrations on who won’t hate you for it. Married life often allows a seamless tradition to having children and can always give you an out when you are invited to do those things in life that you just don’t want to do. Another benefit to married life is that sex, while not as frequent as you may like, isn’t something you have to prowl for. If you are in the mood chances are there is someone right beside you who will oblige. One of the nicest things about married life is having a partner. If the marriage is good and stable – having that person in your life that is a constant (although not perfect) can make you feel stronger and better equipped to tackle this world.

Single people don’t have it so bad either.

You cannot debate married life versus single life without mentioning the one thing that single people have, that married people do not! FREEDOM! Freedom to go and come as they please without having to explain or ask someone else. Freedom to hang out and get drunk if they want to without worrying that someone will get mad. Freedom to have a one-night stand with someone just because you think they are hot. Freedom to buy whatever you want, with no around to tell you no. Freedom to be as clean or messy in your own home as you want without worrying that your make up on the sink will become your husbands pet peeve. Freedom to have a bed to yourself, to not have to listen to someone else snore and freedom to sleep however you want to without sharing the covers.

Single people also are not as tied down to one locale as married people. If a single person gets an amazing job offer on the other side of the country – they can jump right on it without consulting the family or asking anyone else how they feel.

The cons of both lifestyles differ from person to person. If you are involved in a bad marriage than single life will seem like a dream come true. Likewise, if you are unable to find someone to spend your time with, then you will likely feel lonely and frightened no matter how successful your life is. The key to weighing the differences is actually in enjoying the lifestyle you have while you have it.

There is also one constant in the single versus married life. That constant is you! Just because you get married to someone doesn’t necessarily mean you change whom you are. You might change and learn to compromise, you might grow a bit – but the person that you have always been is still there. Often, it is the way you look at things that have changed. In a good marriage, few people would ever turn back to single hood. In a bad marriage, people crave to be single. When you are single and having the time of your life, imagining being tied so tightly to one other person can feel like an enormous nightmare. Yet, if you are single and lonely – having someone to grow old with feels like a breath of fresh air.

It seems that it is human nature to always be thinking that the grass on the other side of the fence is always greener. Perhaps that is why it is most important to live life to your standards each moment. Carpe diem! Seize the life you have and try to pull all the goody out of it so that you don’t spend your future regretting any decisions or missed opportunities. And even so, you still will. You will look forward and back as if your brain is pendulum swinging in both directions. At some point, you will fall nicely in the middle, being able to enjoy the ebb and flow of your life and remaining both grateful and optimistic about what your future holds, whether you are single or married!

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10 Responses

  1. I am married to a mentally ill man. He has NYD. I am leaving him and he doesnt know it yet. I was happier when I was single, so yeah I think being single is better.

  2. I have been married 30 years. In Retirement you learn one certain thing: Do I like my spouse? I do and he does! If you have spent time learning if your future spouse is a great friend even your best friend then you can make an educated decision on pursuing a marriage for Forever. If the reason you want to marry is the “feeling you have had only with this person” or “the sex is great”, and you don’t necessarily “like” him or her, do you both a favor and Break Up. When you connect with a friend and lover that you enjoy spending time with, you will have a potential spouse to love, honor, and respect for your forever..

  3. The real problem is though, there are so many single women these days that have their very high outrageous unrealistic expectations and standards. And with most of these type of women nowadays that are also very high maintenance, independent, which they don’t need a man anyway, gold diggers, since they will sleep with much older men just for the money, very greedy, selfish, spoiled, picky, narcissists, and the list goes on and on. Well that certainly makes it very difficult for many of us good single men meeting a good woman today that isn’t like that at all. Doesn’t It? Well i would certainly say so. It is just too very bad that women weren’t like the good old days when most women back then were the very complete opposite of today, and real ladies as well since meeting the right good woman to settle down with would’ve made marriage great since it was really much easier meeting women in those days. Nowadays Feminism is everywhere.

    1. Wait, women are narcissists? Sir, look what you just wrote. I am a naturally independent, self-sufficient woman. I am having a hard time guessing at when you think “the good old days” were, but are you talking about the times where women were oppressed, and beaten when they spoke out of turn? Because of the patriarchy, women in the “good old days” were conditioned to behave “like a woman,” which even that saying is bull because there is no defined ideal woman. Women are different, some independent, some people-pleasers, some outgoing, others quiet and we should celebrate our differences instead of bashing “today’s women,” and praising the ones who were forced to submission. Furthermore, women do need to know that they don’t need a man to validate them, in fact no single person should feel like they need “another half” to complete them. However, marriage can be a beautiful, refining thing for those who do find someone they want to live life with ALONGSIDE them. I have a feeling that you may have had the weight of feeling like you need some sort of validation in a woman, or companionship in marriage that you haven’t been blessed to find yet. In that case, I’m really sorry for you, and I hope you are able to undo the thought patterns in your head that have brought you to that conclusion. But, if you are just being misogynistic and mad about the badass women who are unapologetically putting themselves first, then I’m praying for you, sir.

      1. Well FYI, the other guy who wrote that comment really very much nailed it altogether. Women today aren’t like the past at all unfortunately. They’re very nasty, stuck up, and have no manners and personality at all either when it comes to many of us single guys trying to meet a half way decent normal woman now. There will be times when these very pathetic women will even Curse at us for no reason at all when we will just say good morning or hello , just to get a conversation going. What is up with that by the way if you really are that smart? In fact, i know other single guys that had women Curse them out as well for no reason. So as you can see why it is very extremely difficult for so many of us single guys that really do want a very serious relationship today to meet a good woman for us since they’re really no where to be found these days unfortunately. And there are many of us good guys out there that can treat a good woman with a lot of love, respect, and be very committed to just only one woman as well. It is most of the women nowadays that just don’t want a relationship anymore at all, and that is why most of us guys are still single now because of the very big change in women today altogether. That is why love was a lot easier to find in the old days since most women were the very complete opposite of today, and a great deal of marriages did last very long as well. Our family members were very extremely lucky when they met one another back then, and that is why overall the married life will always be way much better than the single life since it really does have so many advantages. Well you gave that guy support, and many of us other guys need just as much support too. Peace.

  4. It’s better to be single ,, marrying is overrated,,,, people change right after marrige,,, then that’s when the real person shows up,,,, then you got to accept the whole package ,,, meaning marry their nosy ass family members and friend,,,, thus those nosy ass members interfer with the marrige tring to dictate and give unwanted opinion on situations,,,,, nine time out of ten the wife/ girlfriend/female blabs about their problem between her and her mate. ,,, then you got to try to get alone with people from the spouces family specially when someone brings up ,, religion, and politics, at the dinner table,,,, dealing with nosy ass sisters,, and unwarrented comments ,,,,,, Now of course,, in the marrige unless your a successful proffessional athlete ,,then that’s ideal because each side of the family likes you,,, kissing your ass ,,,but marrige is tough the romance wares after 2 yrs then it’s a f—king investment,, Marrige today vs in the bible ages are totally diffent,,, In my opinion life is simpler single hood

  5. Who would want to grow very old all alone by themselves all the time which isn’t fun at all, especially without family and children.? Very obvious why married men will always live much longer than many of us single men.

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