Are you the one that is always forgetting special events in your life such as anniversaries and birthdays of loved ones? You might remember a few weeks ahead of time that a special day is coming up, but then easily dismiss it into the black hole of your mind where it sits for an eternity. Then, on that special day, you feel like the horses arse because you are the only one who doesn’t have a present for your wife, or mom – or who forgot an anniversary. Now, you are in BIG TROUBLE.
Bottom line is that thepeople in your life that you care about want to be remembered. If your Dear Aunt Sally from across the world can remember the day you were born, and sends a card with $10 in it every stinking year – the least you can do is repay the favor. Most people don’t expect fancy gifts or extravagance on special days, but want to be treated with an air of specialty that makes them feel loved and secure. The saying goes, “Actions speak louder than words,” and your inability to remember a birthday speaks volumes for how you feel about the other people who share your world. And, it’s sort of egocentric and selfish to say the least. You expect this behavior from a 4 year old who hardly knows what month it is, but you don’t expect it from adults.
In fairness, if you have forgotten that special someone’s birthday, and are in the midst of a life crisis or something major, you can get off the hook. But otherwise, there is no excuse for forgetting important dates in your life. Here’s why!
First of all – how many cell phones do you have. Do you have email, or a computer? Do you utilize an Ipod, or Ipad, or Kindle or any other technologically advanced piece of equipment? Each and every one of these things comes pre-equipped with a calendar. If it doesn’t, you can easily download one in like 15 seconds. And, with these calendars, you can easily pencil in all the important dates of the year from birthdays and anniversaries to when its time to get your teeth cleaned. Furthermore, you set reminders for these events, so that you receive some sort of ‘string on finger’ reminder that the day is forthcoming. If you don’t have a computerized version of a calendar, then take a trip to Wal-Mart and spend $2 and buy a pocket calendar. In around 10 minutes, you can easily have all the data entered for the entire year. This last approach may be archaic, but it works.
It’s not rocket science. If you cannot rely on yourself to remember these dates – then ask your mom, brother, sister or cousin if they would email you reminders for these events. Every family has a secretarial type of person who never forgets a thing – pay him or her if you have to.
This way, not only can you remember the dates but you can schedule something special for those dates as well. It’s absolutely ridiculous to try and make anniversary reservations at a nice restaurant on the day of your anniversary. It’s risky to spend your lunch hour out shopping on the day of an event. And it’s just plain rude. If you have the time to schedule your hair appointments or golf game a week in advance, then these special days should not be a problem. Funny, but most of the ultimate forgetters are able to remember all the other important details of their life!
It’s called priorities and the people in your life should make the list.
Sadly, if you are married to the ultimate forgetter, you have probably become accustomed to their selfish behavior and lack of consideration for celebrating YOU. And, that is part of the problem. If you write your husband or wife, significant other, parent or child off as flighty and scatter brained – you are enabling this behavior. Instead, you should be forthright about it. Bottom line, it hurts – even if your mom is a basket case. It hurts when she forgets your birthday. Tell them how you feel, and don’t accept their second handed approaches to make up for something. Your birthday was yesterday not TODAY. The least you could have had was a hand written note that said, “Happy Birthday.” Or a phone call.
And, another truth is this. Everyone wants to be celebrated. How difficult is it really to take 15 minutes to exert some effort into celebrating someone else in your life? The lack of desire (or remembrance) to do is extremely hurtful and is just one of the signs that there is a lack of respect in the relationship. And a lack of respect for others from the moron who forgets who everything.
Heck, if know that you forget things than call 1-800-FLOWERS and pre-order some flowers. Most gift giving companies also have reminder services that will send you a text message before the big day. Utilize it. This way, all you have to do is respond YES and you will be a hero for remembering someone else. And more importantly, for making someone else in your life – feel special. Everybody wants to feel special.
So, what’s your excuse going to be this year? How many more times do you think you can use the, “I forgot,” or “I’m just so busy,” card to explain why you didn’t spend 15 minutes for the sake of someone else? Eventually, as stated before – your actions will speak louder than your words. And your actions are saying that you really don’t prioritize other people, or think much of their feelings. Sad.
If this is a problem for you, check out sites like www.birthdayalarm.com. Right now. Before you forget. If you know a forgetter – send them this article so they can sign up for the service (for free). Bottom line is there really is no excuse. Not anymore.