Whether you are an anxious bride to be awaiting your special day or have been someones beloved wife for many years . . . every Christian asks themselves at some point and time in their lives ‘what does the Bible say about Marriage?’
Maybe you and your spouse are going through a very difficult time right now. Maybe you are not sure if your marriage can survive and you are seeking God’s will and purpose for your union. Or maybe you simply want to get off on the right foot before you take the big plunge into marriage. No matter what your reason for wondering what does the Bible say about marriage . . . everything you need to know is right inside God’s word and if you ask Him to share His wisdom with you . . . He is faithful to do so.
If you don’t have time to go-through the Bible for all the answers right away . . . Read on to find a few of the most asked questions from husbands and wives searching for answers . . . straight from the Bible.
Why are men and women so different?
Genesis 2:23 and 24 reads . . . “The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Many pastors break it down like this . . . Adam was created from the earth, but Eve from his side. Men and women were not created to be alike . . . but instead to complete one another.’ If you examine your marriage carefully, you will find that what you lack your spouse makes up for. If your husband has trouble waiting . . . you are probably very patient. If you are not very good with managing money . . . you may find that your spouse is an excellent mathematician. Our shortcomings complement one another.
What does the Bible say about intimacy in marriage?
The book of Solomon goes into extensive detail about what an intimate marriage should look like. The passion Solomon and his bride have for one another rivals that of modern romance novels . . . the sum of it is . . . ‘the marriage bed is undefiled.’ But what does this mean? This means that anything between husband and wife is to celebrated and enjoyed.
How should I show my love for my spouse?
Ephesians 5:22-25 states ‘Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” “In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.’ In other words . . . think of your wife or husband as yourself giving preference to their needs. This may often require sacrifice. If an activity you are participating in makes your spouse uncomfortable . . . give it up. This may seems extreme but it creates a feeling of true security for your marriage. Even if you don’t understand why the particular activity or event upsets your spouse . . . giving it up shows your love for your partner is greater or equaled to the love of yourself.
How do we guard our marriage from disaster?
While there are so many verses on temptation and things that can be dangerous to our relationship . . . I think Proverbs 4:23 sums it up best . . . ‘Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.’ A good rule of thumb is . . . if Jesus was around would you still do what you are doing, think what you are thinking, look at what you are seeing, say what you are saying? Guard your heart . . . don’t allow yourself to daydream of what it would be like if your spouse were more like the neighbor’s wife and don’t fix your eyes on any other. While it may seem harmless, our God holds higher standards . . . lust is just as sinful as adultery.
When it comes to learning what does the Bible say about marriage . . . remember that every marriage has it’s up and downs. But by studying God’s word and taking time to pray for one another you will find that nothing is impossible. ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.’
If you still feel as though you need help . . . consider talking to an elder, a Christian counselor or a trusted pastor.