Comments on: A Mother’s Instinct – Moms Just Know https://www.professorshouse.com/a-mothers-instinct/ Sun, 27 Apr 2025 13:55:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sam https://www.professorshouse.com/a-mothers-instinct/#comment-31298 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 07:33:44 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/a-mothers-instinct/#comment-31298 In reply to Marie.

Stop caring for her, realize that would she does it unacceptable. Your mother sounds extremely toxic, you need to get away from her. The reason she has power is because you care for her, because you’re probably kind hearted but you should let her go. This person is an energy vampire, you can’t change or improve her. I hope that you can find peace, forgive her and move on.

]]> By: Jennifer Zeober https://www.professorshouse.com/a-mothers-instinct/#comment-24179 Tue, 16 Jan 2018 09:02:25 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/a-mothers-instinct/#comment-24179 Beautiful courageous way to express yourself. I have a strong instinct about my child, my son and I are going through life with out each other. There is a darkness that lightens within me, I feel that he is abused by his son’s family. I’ve called the authorities, and CPS, they didn’t do anything. I need advice.
Sincerely
Jennifer Zeober

]]> By: Marie https://www.professorshouse.com/a-mothers-instinct/#comment-21738 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 13:39:48 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/a-mothers-instinct/#comment-21738 Beautiful post. Thank you. I resonate with the message that he mother instinct might be something of shared energy.
I had been raised by narcissistic mother. I had not experienced the loving, caring mother instinct. Thus, I appreciated hugely being explained what a good mothering can look like. I had experienced the power-abuse by the “instinct”. I wonder if the mother that decides to down-mother uses the same instinct as the “good mothering” does. She steps into this instinct, originally be here in order to protect and provide the child. She uses it for the opposite: to tune into when the child feels pain and distress and neglect it or create situations when the child suffers more. I have the impression that my mother learned through her life how to harm me, misusing the mothering. I have seen no animal doing it, so far no single one. In the pathological use of the maternal instinct, I had observed that my mother did not need to learn it anywhere. She had no books on manipulation etc. for her disposition. She had been abused herself, but I guess by far not that badly as I was. She just knew how to make me feel threatened and not safe, how to put me in distress and keep me there.
It feels like that she had grown buttons to press me down. She figured out my weak spots already in a baby-time. I have the impression that my mother listens very well to her instincts. She had discovered already in my baby-time that I can be put down by bad health care and abuse in health care (Munchausen Proxy Syndrom)…it harms me more than anybody else. I break down from the unethical or no social, public care. I also wanted to learn a lot, my brain was fast. She managed to get me to schools with very less-intelligent people. I thrive so bad among these people, who addictipnally abused me verbally for being “too much”. My mother mainly focused on these areas. She also tried to put down my body image in an excessive way (telling me I was fat sack or a skeleton, tearing my hair out of my head)…but these stuff did not work so well with me, I did not care that much as for the others. Maybe I am wrong and my understanding will arrive. Maybe my mother´s instinct got it right.
How come that these creatures became and kept the mothering role ?
I had never had anybody who would step between me and her (the opposite, society was pushing me into her lap. Particulary the pediatricians were helping her to break me down, in the serious of my health care system unnecessary odyssea-through unnecessary operations, without anaeasthesia, toxic nourishment when I was not breastfeeded, making handicaping comments about my heart function and being a neurotic with high blood pressure or a child with such a back scoliosis and asymmetrical chest and many others, my mother left happy with the doctors, she had another argument to put me down at home ).
I admire the mothers who come to the children doctors in order to sake help (which should be normal) for their child and use more the instinct to help the child. I have experienced it vice-versa.

I can imagine that she would try to destroy the person that would have the courage to step between her and me ( in my adult life, it showed up that this person could be a potential romantic partner, good teacher, good job, employee, psychotherapist or just a good friend).
I am sorry that the society did not protect me. Althought, it was very difficult for people -who did not care: mother played the sacrificing saint mother who´s only concern is her child´s well-being.
I even moved to different countries in my early adulthood. Anyway, her instinct figured out how to get me back and keep her with her (against my will). Her instinct is very inventive and powerful (she even visited some psychiatrist in order to make me mentally ill and keep me with her, behind my back).
Her instinct gives death and destroys/this is perhaps she plays the perfect caring mothering in her external life.

I´d wish the break this pathological instinct in this monster-mothering and break free from her.
I would wish that she would have not have this instinct, this power over me.
It cannot be that she uses the life instinct to destroy others, particulry the child that she gave that power over by “nature of biology”.
I´d wish some help with it.

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