Comments on: Accusing Someone of Cheating

By: MasterSprinter

MasterSprinter — Sun, 15 May 2022 14:11:22 +0000

In reply to John. Well, you cheated on your ex WITH her, you made your own bed

By: Faithful

Faithful — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 16:51:31 +0000

I ended a relationship because a woman baselessly accused me of cheating.
I am now married with kids and a mortgage and all that. She has three baby daddies, lives in a trailer park, is actually cheated on, and physically looks 10 years older than me.
If they hadn’t accused me of cheating they would have a nice house and a nice husband and a nice future. They have absolutely none of those things because of baseless cheating accusations.

By: Maria Jane

Maria Jane — Fri, 06 Aug 2021 22:43:34 +0000

“I was in Miami with my HUSBAND and his parent for vacation. We had flown there on their private jet for a

great weekend. Something felt off. Like, really off. And I did what you’re never supposed to do I reached

out to hackgoodnesstech on insta, gram who helped me gain access to his phone without him knowing. It turns

out he slept with someone else! So, there I am in Miami with his family with no way of hopping a flight back

and we weren’t scheduled to leave for 2 more days. And this was our wedding anniversary. Right before dinner

with his family.” MEN ARE WHAT?

By: JLC

JLC — Mon, 19 Jul 2021 20:58:07 +0000

i have been accused of cheating on my ex two times…he texted me to never communicate with him again and that I know what I did and that I am dishonest. I have not been unfaithful EVER. I have had my ex-husband cheat on me and I know the pain going through that. Also, I would never hurt someone doing that. My ex wouldn’t call me to talk about it. He just kept saying “you know what you did”….I didn’t know because I didn’t do anything wrong.
Now, he said that there is way too much that has happened…. each time he would text me he got angrier and angrier. He never apologized….he said that he didn’t accuse me of cheating…I told him that a family member said that is exactly what he told them.
What hurts is that he is the one that caused this….he is the one that doesn’t want to talk to me….he is the one that won’t apologize…he is the one that said that he should find another woman who he has things in common with (which we met on a dating app – everything in common). He also said that I was the love of his life….he has had past girlfriend and ex wife who both cheated on him. I think he is too proud to own what he did and he thinks it would be easier for him to move ahead. One last thing, he said that he has never loved any of the women in his past (except for his ex wife) but he said that I was the love of his life…. How could all of this happen in a short 2 weeks? He has been totally stressed out at work, his daughter moving out, my house trying to finish up with renovation, my debt…I told him that I never asked him to pay my debt EVER. All of my drama is taken care of….but his is just starting….any help?

By: Brooke

Brooke — Fri, 10 Jan 2020 19:57:52 +0000

This is ridiculous! You give the advice not to jump to conclusions that could damage a relationship, then you tell the person to snoop on their sig. other’s cell phone, therefore BETRAYING that person by invading their privacy. This is also a form of accusing them. You’re sending the message that their PERCEIVED behavior warrants a loss of their basic human right to privacy, and you’re in effect STILL calling them a liar.
I had a boyfriend OBSESSED with the idea of cheating. He once yelled at me for 3 hours because he snooped on my phone and saw a conversation where I told an old friend that I was NOT single and NOT interested in him. But the thing is, when you’re looking to find dirt on someone, you’ll turn anything into evidence. He swore I deleted the “real” conversation. I was distancing myself from my boyfriend because of things like snooping, following me, driving by my house at night… but I never cheated. What ended our relationship was his betrayal of my trust.
If you suspect something is wrong, talk to your partner. If that doesn’t solve anything, then you can validate breaking up simply due to the fact that you and your partner are no longer communicating well or that you don’t trust your partner. Period. Grow up.

By: Charles

Charles — Tue, 07 May 2019 18:44:37 +0000

I’ve had a terrible situation in my marriage. A woman from our town came over to our house that my wife and I hardly knew about three years ago. She told my wife a story about she was having an affair with a married man in town and the wife was pregnant. I didn’t think anything of it at the time, my thought was. That sucks for that family and this woman is a whacko for telling my wife that story. Then she would start calling my wife all the time and trying to talk about this guy. My wife was unsettled about it. My wife would tell me she would call at times when I was about to go the gym. And she would ask about me. I don’t know if it was true or not. Needless to say my wife started accusing me. And fighting would break out because it was not nice how she approach me. She would mock me and tell me I was doing something I wasn’t. She constantly thought there was third person watching me and us. But there was no basis. She had access to all my accounts could check all she wanted. Look at my phone all she wanted. But it became an obsession she would constantly be looking though things and it took away from our happiness and time with our family. It would make me angry and defensive because I loved my wife more than anything in this world. I could never imagine doing that to her, she never understood she was my partner and I wanted the rest of my life with her. And I just wanted to have fun with her. We ended up in counseling. I was upset she put “find a phone” on my phone and made up a lie I that someone from her work saw me in a building across the street from work with woman. It turns out in the city with the buildings that the gps is whacky and shows you a block or two from where you are. I remember I got a 20K bonus that day. And she had me on facetime with my find a phone on showing her how the gps was whacked out. Things got worse. She started recording me in the house with a small recorder. She brought it with us on vacation with our family 150 miles from where we lived and I had to step away for 15 minutes to go the bathroom in the room. She came at me anger days later because she heard a knock on the door in the recording that said “hello”. It was voice activated recorder so there was no timestamp. She never let me hear it. But my guess it was cleaning person knocking on doors to clean rooms. Things kept getting worse. I had to put up cameras in our home. One day I was in the basement alone watching TV and she said I was signalling a woman outside. Turned out to be the remote in my hand. She would think there was writing on the shower glass or on the dust on my car. Taking countless hours examining it. Taking countless pictures. All the while she was mean. She would say “keep that nut away from our family” “you left your wife and kids for another family”. She would tell me I gave her and STD. I poisoned her food. I had someone come in and tamper with the girls shampoo bottle and put hydrogen peroxide in it. So I got mean back. The fighting was out of control. I had enough and I was sick of it. Fighting carried over to our parents. Worse the kids were getting involved. My 11 year step daughter was convinced I was lying. Finally I took a lie to detector test. I passed it. It was on sexual contact, including grouping and all of the above. She disregarded it because she said I could have an emotional affair. Then she got cold. Took away intimacy. Finally I had a nervous breakdown and wanted to hurt myself because I didn’t understand. I loved her so much I could not take it. I broke things. I could not live like this and I didnt want to live without her. She was an amazing wife for 7 years. And all the sudden this happened. I ended up in a psych ward. I’ve been out for 3 months. I’m in an apartment alone. I see my daughter 2 or 3 times a week. And I don’t see my 11 year old step daughter. We are in litigation. Counseling for me 2 or 3 times a week. Im basically paying for her problem.

By: Cynthia Roman

Cynthia Roman — Thu, 18 Apr 2019 21:56:05 +0000

In reply to Helaina. I accuse my husband whenever i feel like he's holding baxk information. It doesn't have to be important info, it could be that things will take longer at work today or he said one thing and did another. My mom was hit and cheated on and i watched as a kid and she warned my to be wary of men. In my heart i believe my husband. He's the live of my life and i don't want to lose him but i accuse him when i feel he's not being transparent and i take his defensiveness as a sign of guilt. I feel like he has done something wrong behind my back and he will never tell me. I feel like his faithfulness is too good to be true. I feel like he is lying to me. I don't know if these feelings are instincts or fears. This article and your comments helped me realize that i could be terribly wrong and yet i still feel like i could be right. I hope God soon reveal the truth and free me of my fears or vindicate me for my intuitions. Either way, i just want to be free of this burden.

By: matt wallis

matt wallis — Wed, 27 Feb 2019 10:43:43 +0000

I have been accused by my girlfriend of cheating because of something completely stupid happened.
Basically I texted her on my iPhone and completely forgot to turn the phone off and I put it in my pocket left on in her texting page.
Before I knew it I heard the phone make a texting someone noise and I looked at it and it texted her 2 women’s names Mel and ave who I’ve never heard off and a load of gibberish, so she now thinks I’m texting other women.
If I was why would I text her two women’s names?
I know I’m innocent and this is something I didn’t deliberately do.
She doesn’t believe me I’m really upset about this as I really love her.

By: D...

D... — Fri, 21 Dec 2018 03:08:17 +0000

This article is good. I have been going through hell for the last 3.5 years. She constantly accuses me of cheating and the thought never crossed my mind. We used to go out party and have fun. With my friends a couple of times with hers but it was never as frequent. The people I know have been in my life for 10 to 25 years and some longer. I have since had to stop talking to any and everyone just to get the fight to stop. Yet the accusations keep coming. An old friend says hi and she asks immediately if I slept with this person. If I say no she calls me a liar. If I say yes that’s a sure way to end the relationship. This has even happened with family members so much I cant enjoy their company for holidays. I dont know what to do anymore. I’ve tried so hard to save us. But it’s looking like the best course of action is to get out.

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 15 Nov 2018 13:54:56 +0000

I just recently accused my fiance of cheating I used a text app to text her see if she was trying to talk to someone and I don’t know what to do now she broke it off she tell me that she has me and u still hhaave her she still say she loves me but she does not talking to me that much now like shr used to I don’t know what to do anymore just trying to get some information to help me out with this. I mean I really do love and care about this women!!! thank you for the input.