I am so sorry that u have had to deal with this. My husband & I have been married almost 25 years. He’s a truck driver. So he’s gone alot. Anyways, he started doing the same thing. But also started receiving text notifications throughout the day, everyday, & when I said anything about it, he would immediately get defensive. Our sex life dwindled to almost nothing. I eventually found out that the notifications were from websites & women. He had started texting/webcaming them instead of having sex with me. & I literally tried everything that I could to get him to show me that he was still interested & or if we should end it all. After all the talking, which was only one sided (me). I finally let him know that I knew everything he had done & since he had obviously not cared about me or our marriage that I was leaving him. Well, I’m not going to say that our sexual relationship is 100% because it’s not, but atleast he shows interest now. There was a time where I honestly thought that he hated me. I wish that I didn’t have to resort to threatening to leave him either but I did. But anyways, I just wanted to tell u that I know exactly how & I don’t wish that kind of hurt on anyone. & I hope that u can either move on from this. *hugs*

I’ve got a crazy situation. We are a new couple. Wonderful sexual chemestry. We are crazy about each other. He moves his mom into HIS house and she has a problem with me spending the night. She’s a religous fanatic and throws a fit like a child everytime I’m there. She stomps around the house, slamming doors, and blasts sermons on her radio. And this is in the middle of the night. At first he would say “just ignore her” but things got worse and worse. Eventually he sided with her and said “we should be respectful to her beliefs”. He even had the thought that maybe she is right and we should stop for the sake of our souls. I feel that the fact that we are being quiet when making love is being respectful. He can’t come to my place because i share a room with my son. We can’t afford to go to hotels all the time. I am so angry that a stranger is cock blocking me and I’m a grown woman. I fear if we stop having sex all together our relationship will die out.

Jessica i know how you feel I feel the same exact way.. I have given up and decided to move on. The only thing is my BF and I have nothing in common, we don’t even date anymore. The relationship is boring and taking a toll on me.

But it mainly is women who do this to men as if to exert some kind of power over them!

Well said.

you need exorcism

One thing missing is sexual chemistry. Never really been there on her end. Im very attracted to her. We probably have sex twice a month. When she has her period she always say “oh no im getting my period” and acts if she dissapointed we cant have sex. 2 weeks after still nothing. I spoke to her about it 2 months in the relationship saying are you even attracted to me. She said yes and she felt bad she made me feel that way. For a month it got better then since then we have had sex once in 2 months.

Things to note:

* Im fit and not fat, although not ripped. Im a super clean freak.
* I am 30 and she is 27
* I have offered massages, i take her out, cook romantic dinners. Give nice comments on how she dresses and looks.
* I never rush into wanting to have sex. I always like to look after a woman prior to sex.
* I always have to instigate it unless she drinks.
* The only time she really wants sex is when she drinks. This is a major concern for me.
*we shower together alot so she has no body issue concerns
* No sexual abuse in the past.

I guess i want to know what might be going on inside her head.
Why not accept offers of massages?
Why only is she interested in sex when drinking? Whats with the acting like she is dissapointed when she is getting her period?

I feel like i am doing every possible to try make her feel intimate. Im not needy and expect it every second day. I wouldn’t even have an issue if we only had sex 2 or 3 times a month if she showed me she actually wanted to. Im just at the point of not even instigating the sex anymore.