Comments on: Marriage Should Not be a Constant Battle https://www.professorshouse.com/marriage-should-not-be-a-constant-battle/ Tue, 15 Apr 2025 11:57:38 +0000 hourly 1 By: ELH https://www.professorshouse.com/marriage-should-not-be-a-constant-battle/#comment-23217 Sat, 28 Oct 2017 10:06:22 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/?p=10674#comment-23217 In reply to Harry.

Yes. Thank you. Dealing with a spouse who is controlling, belittling and condescending is exhausting. Simple things are a constant battle. I’m exhausted from trying to keep the peace.

For my own mental health I know I need to leave, but I fear retaliation and that he’ll use the children as pawns.

In some cases the answer may be grow up and stop bickering. But when you’re married to someone with a personality disorder the best advice may be to get out. Carefully. With advanced planning and support.

]]> By: Harry https://www.professorshouse.com/marriage-should-not-be-a-constant-battle/#comment-22040 Thu, 10 Aug 2017 02:47:58 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/?p=10674#comment-22040 More babble about more-or-less, “just agree to be agreeable”. Sorry buddy, I’ve been through two couples counselors, 1000s of dollars and my fill of therapy which failed to look at us objectively as individuals and essentially blamed us both equally for discord, and it wasn’t until I sought individual counseling and after my therapist had seen me two dozen or so times, did he finally conclude that my wife was the immovable object to happiness for her and me! He said it was possible she was OCPD among other things and that personality disorders are hard to remedy. So face facts, sometimes your spouse just can’t have any sustaining good will toward you, and if that sounds like your situation, your sanity will only be regained by her willing treatment or more likely, divorce.

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