Comments on: Snoring and the Marital Bed – It Can Ruin a Marriage https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/ Mon, 09 Jun 2025 11:21:02 +0000 hourly 1 By: Ally https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-1052047 Sat, 31 Jul 2021 14:48:58 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-1052047 I have been with the center of my universe, my best friend for 10 years. His snoring is pretty substantial. He’s been very kind and willing to sleep on the couch about 3/4 through the night, in the early morning when he hits his REM sleep and gets *really* loud. He’s a smoker and does drink wine nightly too.
I’m in the medical field and he knows I need my rest, and we have teenagers that go to high school so he takes a hit for me in order to help me sleep because I’m a light sleeper. But that’s not to say that the sleeping apart hasn’t gotten to us because he’s made some comments before about being sleeping separately and I feel terribly guilty asking him to go in the living room. But we do talk about it and we’re very very close and communicate very well, and we don’t hold resentment, or at least try not to, because this is something that we refuse to let pull us apart. We always fall asleep together. Always. It doesn’t really get bad until the wee hours of the morning anyway. He does have horrible allergies sometimes and meds help, and eventually when money permits we will see a doctor. But for now we’re just doing our best. I love him to pieces and this really sucks but it is also very very serious. I end up very sleep deprived *many* nights and it’s pretty horrible.

]]> By: Kaz https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-1048659 Sat, 26 Jun 2021 13:40:50 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-1048659 Snoring destroyed my marriage. His snoring was so loud I had to sleep on a love seat as far away from the bedroom as possible. He refused to see a doctor. When we vacationed he told me to sleep in the closet. I traveled a lot internationally for my job and it’s the only time I had a good nights sleep. He ended up having a long term affair and leaving (with a big 6 figure check from me). Now his new relationship is in the same state. If you snore take it very seriously.

]]> By: MARK H SANDERS https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-36427 Sun, 05 Apr 2020 20:36:17 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-36427 If you’re going to basically state that your marriage is over because of snoring, then why didn’t you list of :all of the first line defenses? You offer no specific solution(s). Your laziness has eclipsed your idiocy.

]]> By: LRD https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-36335 Sat, 28 Mar 2020 18:13:21 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-36335 In reply to LD.

So, LD, has anything changed for your situation?

My wife never snored, until the last few years, and it’s driving me crazy! She says to wake her if she does, but it only lasts a short time. Just as I’m getting back to sleep, she starts up again! It doesn’t happen every night, but is getting more common than not. If she snores I’ll move to another room now. This happens a few times a week. She sleeps the whole night, and I get little sleep. Today, I finally asked her to please try the nasal strips! Lets see if that works and how long it will last!

]]> By: LD https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-35489 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 00:25:55 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-35489 In reply to Lou.

Hi Lou,

It’s all in vain anyhow, my wife’s snoring literally travels though the bedding. It’s like the bed is vibrating. Ear plugs don’t work for low frequency sound as you pointed out, they’re for temporary, industrial use.

It would be nice if my wife actually cared. She tried CPAP, but for a whopping 2 nights. She won’t even discuss weight loss. In fact, it’s similar for nearly any problem we have. She will find out what I would like her to do and then does the opposite, then she threatens to divorce me for being so negative….. so for months at a time I won’t say a word….. Then if I do even try to bring it up I get threatened again.

]]> By: Lou https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-28455 Sun, 03 Mar 2019 09:23:14 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-28455 Please stop talking about ear plugs as a solution to a snoring partner. They are an industrial device and only block out explosively loud noise, not speech or snoring. Another problem is that long term all night use can cause tinnitus.

]]> By: John Micelli https://www.professorshouse.com/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-20546 Wed, 18 Jan 2017 18:54:00 +0000 https://professorshouse.com/relationship-category/snoring-and-the-marital-bed/#comment-20546 Snoring is a big problem in a marriage, it can lead to divorce easily. To avoid this you can sleep in different rooms, also you may try some stop snoring mouthpieces or some natural anti snoring drops.

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