Comments on: Withholding Sex – This is Not a Good Idea

By: Michelle tesic

Michelle tesic — Sun, 26 Feb 2023 16:00:46 +0000

In reply to Doesn’t matter. I feel you but I am the woman in this relationship. I also feel that many times my partner doesn't desire me. He never initiates. I feel bad about myself for wanting it all the time and sometimes I feel guilty. I thought he was gay at one point but he revealed that he thought he was too small. That's not the issue, because I love him so much. I'm not getting enough

By: sexless

sexless — Tue, 14 Feb 2023 04:32:02 +0000

I’m in a sexless relationship and I’ve never been denied sex in other relationships, but this is getting to be ridiculous. I feel like he’s using it as a tool to keep me hanging on, guessing or wondering when we’re gonna get to it. it’s always an excuse of “oh I was tired, or you was sleeping I wanted to let you rest etc,etc, and I’ve seen too many people in this position who we’re married/dating for years and I just don’t want any part of a sexless relationship. this makes me feel insecure about myself, it’s like what is wrong with me? Do I stink or something? is he bored with me? Is there someone else? I’m 50,he’s 60. My theory is “A’INT noboby that tired or hurting that they can’t get at least one session in a week” c’mon tired of the manipulation.

By: Sputter Gunk

Sputter Gunk — Fri, 08 Jul 2022 16:40:59 +0000

In reply to Doesn’t matter. I hear ya, brother. Same situation here. Exactly, except I started an affair that I desperately needed. Maybe you should consider that. It'll help, I think. At least you stand regain some perspective and value yourself a little more. Consider it.

By: John R

John R — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 23:51:54 +0000

My wife blames the things is say (political and social crap she disagrees with because she’s a liberal and I’m not ) on her lack of sex drive but I know the truth is the birth control she started taking after our second child was born is the reason why and the sad part is when I try to talk to her about it and provide her with proof she jumps to conclusions and gets irate and then I have to add on another 3 months to me sentence for bad behavior
She uses sex as a weapon to be used against me and I feel alone and unwanted and that’s on a good day
She use to be easy to talk to and fun to be with but now its getting to the point where I have to watch every little thing I say or I don’t say anything at all because of the way she tries to find something offensive in everything’s I say
And I find the fact that she calls herself a Liberal almost offensive because I always thought liberals were supposed to be tolerant and open minded people that promoted different prospectives….. Well not this one !

By: Paypar

Paypar — Sun, 28 Nov 2021 10:27:23 +0000

Thank you, Professorshouse for such a detailed and thoughtful writeup. You are the best

By: Annemarie Conrod

Annemarie Conrod — Thu, 19 Aug 2021 10:36:37 +0000

In reply to Phil H-R. Spade you need to get counseling ASAP! Seems wife only wanted a husband she can control…. you doing all the work around the house and holding down a job with a sex withholding wife is mean, controlling, lazy , manipulative. If wife won’t agree to counseling then leave this selfish controlling abusive farce. It’s not mature, healthy or worth staying in. Annemarie Conrod.

By: Tired of Literally Doing Every

Tired of Literally Doing Every — Sat, 17 Jul 2021 08:22:46 +0000

Could it be that after being treated like a prostitute for months or years on end simply gets old? I have never withheld sex, but apparently not initiating and pandering to my partner has gotten me blacklisted. Men: step up. Period.

By: sara

sara — Sat, 26 Jun 2021 15:52:08 +0000

In reply to Doesn’t matter. Partners that withhold sex always trying to get something out of you whether it be money or things. Yeah men do it too

By: Cattivo

Cattivo — Mon, 27 Apr 2020 15:37:35 +0000

In reply to Doesn’t matter.

Don’t marry this woman under any circumstances. Things will not get better.. Your continued affection for this woman is basically lack of affection for yourself. Nothing you write indicates she is interested in getting to the bottom of why she won’t engage in sex. She either is dissatisfied with you sexually (which she should have the decency to discuss) or has a medical/psychological issue (which she should have the decency to rectify) or—-most likely—-wants leverage. She may even never have loved you.

Leave this creature immediately.

By: David Beart

David Beart — Fri, 07 Feb 2020 14:26:02 +0000

In reply to Doesn’t matter. I think there are a lot of men in the same boat as you and appreciate that you took the time to express your frustration.