Really, the truth is, the conditions were fine. The circumstances were fine. The dynamics were normal. The unhappiness was within me. I was not living in a place of empowerment and reverence.

Somewhere within my psyche, my soul, my higher, authentic self, there was a knowing that where I was, what I was doing, how I was settling – was not enough for me, for my life, for the expansion I had called myself to in this life.

When you’re in the thick of things, it’s so easy to blame everything and everyone around you for the dissatisfaction you feel. You are not free. There is no peace.

When we ignore inner misalignment, over time it moves from inside of us to outside us. It can appear as broken relationships, career dissatisfaction and even health problems.

Discontent is an invitation to come into balance.

How do we move from this place to feeling powerful?

We must move. We must take some type of action.

This is where we can get tripped up. The natural human response is to want a carefully designed plan with all the steps laid out before us that will not only guide us safely to our destination, but also ensure there will be a huge payoff on the return of our investment.

For me, because this imaginary “plan” did not reveal itself. I had belief systems operating that told me I wasn’t smart enough, good enough, energetic enough, young enough, didn’t have money in the bank account that was enough, bla, bla, bla. I bought into the misbelief that I wasn’t enough and that no effort I would put forth was enough. I believed that effort was a requirement to being enough – and all of this was just a big misunderstanding.

Because of that, I did nothing.

We always have a choice. Once we feel clear and discover our inner compass, we tap into wonder and possibility.

When we buy into the story of not enoughness, we stay right where we are. It’s perceived safety smothered by feelings of despair, lack of fulfillment and dis-empowerment that comes from the inner critic inside our heads. Here is a place of giving up. A place of what I might call, death.

And, when this begins to fester inside our minds and our hearts, it then must manifest itself into our life in the form of imbalance in our health, our relationships, our careers, our finances. Like attracts like. It’s universal law.

Or we can choose to follow the inspiration of our hearts. We learn to trust our own inner truth.

Our internal guidance system nudges us as the polarity to our discontent. Our inner guidance system is the flicker of joy that is possible. It is the feeling of lightness of being uplifted of getting carried away.

If we allow ourselves to be led by our hearts and follow the wisdom of lightness, this act of self-love, self-trust and self-empowerment will lead to a sense of expansion, to the feeling of joy, fulfillment, aliveness and Love. This authentic connection will lead us out of the dark and into the light.

You can blame the president or the world. You can blame the company or your boss. You can blame your parents or your siblings or your spouse. You can live out again and again all the bad things and atrocities that have happened in your life placing your energy and your focus on the past and stay stuck in powerlessness continuing to blame people and circumstances outside of you.

Or you can give yourself permission to follow the illogical thread to your heart and reclaim your power.

You can remember that you are spiritual being on an epic human adventure and everything in your life is a set-up. A set-up for your growth, learning and evolution. A set-up FOR you, designed to follow the wisdom of your heart out of the confusion of the forest and into the flow of intention and abundance in the field.

It’s a sacred move and It’s up to you to make it first.

We are in a new world. We can stay stuck where we are trying to force the old ways into the new framework, or we can empower ourselves authentically with new perspectives, new tools and new ways of being. The choice is yours. Check in with your heart and follow its lead. It will show you the way to reveling your brilliance.

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Bringing reverent balance to all your parts, requires mom’s to respect their shadow aspects and to love them into the light. Mom’s have a tendency to sacrifice, to hide, to abandon their own needs and dreams, as they are busy caring for everyone else. Over time, shadow aspects of our personality can rear their heads in all kinds of different ways. These buzz killers can show up as self-doubt, criticism, gossip, the mean girl, judge Judy, Tonya the tyrant and the like.

These are the aspects of all of us that were born as a strategy of protection. These are the parts of our personality that didn’t get to work through their true feelings at the time, because it may not have seemed appropriate to express these unattractive and undesirable parts of ourselves. Instead, we stuffed them way back in the closet, tried to keep them hidden while mama just kept pushing onward taking care of everyone else.

As more mom’s begin to walk a path of consciousness, bringing higher awareness to the idea that loving all of our sweet and sour parts is the key to experiencing wholeness, doing so gives moms the opportunity to relate differently to themselves working with these shadow aspects of their personality.

So, what can mom’s do to diffuse the power of the shadow that shows up in unwanted and problematic ways? How can we bring these less attractive parts into balance without alienating them further and simultaneously diffuse stress, exhaustion, over-giving, and feelings of not-enough-ness?

1. Be Honest. This not-so-pretty “part” is still one of your parts. And, hey guess what? Everyone on the planet has these shadow aspects. It’s the people who can be honest with themselves and lovingly work with these disconnected parts who live a more conscious and balanced life filled with fulfilment and joy. So, get honest with yourself and put a name to this ‘shadowey’ part.

2. Befriend the “part”. Begin a dialog with this aspect of yourself. Ask her, “What do you need?” What are you trying to teach me?” “What do I need to know about you?” “When do you show up and why?” This act of courage can take place as a journaling activity where you write down the questions in your journal and let that part speak directly by answering you back in the first person. Upon reflection, you may discover this “part” was formed as a way to protect you. This “part” of you has valuable information that you need to acknowledge for healthy balance inside yourself. What does she want you to be aware of?

3. Demonstrate love and compassion for that “part.” Just like your child when they are feeling hurt, angry or upset, nothing sooths the pain as well as mama’s loving compassion and mama’s tender acceptance. Can you do this for yourself? Allow your Higher Self, that wisdom filled part of you that is made of Love and Light, to do the work. Think of it like self-parenting. When you begin to understand this “part” with more curiosity and demonstrate your understanding, acceptance, and compassion, this “part” of you can begin to relax, to feel safe, to feel seen and heard. This is the secret sauce to loving this “part” into the light. This step is how healing happens.

4. Move into reverent balance internally. By loving all of your parts you bring a sense of inner stability to your consciousness. You come into the middle which is a place of neutrality and equanimity. You step out of the polarity of right and wrong and stop invalidating yourself for the “parts” that sometimes act out as a way to get your love and attention.

Relating to all of your parts with love and compassion is how to graciously strengthen the relationship you have with yourself with reverence and respect. It’s this act that returns you to a balanced way of being.

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Tired of being stuck because you’re afraid to make the wrong choice? Afraid to make the wrong choice because you don’t trust yourself? Are you not trusting yourself because you are over-identified with logic and the control mechanisms of the ego?

It’s not your soul you don’t trust.

When you get that fleeting wave of inspiration, that is your soul. When you have a brilliant idea that you then discard immediately because it feels too grand, that is your soul. When you feel an inner pull towards something that looks totally and seemingly ridiculous on the surface…guess what? That is your soul.

Your soul has the map for your life, and it wants your attention. While we often do receive the message its sending, we ultimately discount these golden breadcrumbs, because the truth is, we don’t trust our small ego-self. This is the “learned” part of us, not the wisdom filled part.

Our soul gives us guidance every moment of every day. We disregard it because we’ve been taught to believe that our logical mind is smarter than our intuitive knowing, or our gut instinct for that matter. When these trust busters show up to sabotage your soul’s calling and cause you to mistrust your higher knowing, try lifting your gaze a bit higher and begin honoring the voice of your original wisdom.

7 trust busters that keep you from following your Soul’s guidance:

1. Forgetting Universal Intelligence is smarter than you. Things unfold as they do because there is a grand order and harmony in the universe. Notice, no one is telling nature what to do. It just unfolds according to the dynamic code within. You too are nature, and you also have a code that is ready to unfold.
2. Listening to logical mind Debbie-Doubter. The ego’s mo. is safety, security, comfort, and control. It thinks it’s kept you safe, but it’s really keeping you stuck. Your mind is like a database. You can only reference what has already been. When a bolt of newness activates you, the logical mind checks the data base for historical information. It’s just not designed to venture comfortably into fresh territory of the unknown. This is the job of the spirit.
3. You’re checking with everyone. You call your mom, your sister, your BFF, and you share your inspired idea. SQUASH! In two seconds, they shoot it down, telling you your too lofty, not well funded, under resourced, whatever. Yet, you feel dejected because it was difficult to fully articulate your inspired vision and then you made their opinion matter more than yours. Recognize when you check with everyone else and discard your own inner voice, you are reinforcing patterns of self-betrayal.
4. Believing everything is a destination. Life is a process, so is our growth and evolution. Instead of viewing every innovative idea as an endpoint, perhaps consider it’s simply a pivot point designed to get you moving in a specific direction.
5. Running the story of not enough. Your inner critic thrives on telling you you’re not enough. Not good enough, smart enough, skinny enough, talented enough, fill in the blanks with your specific flavor of not enough for the biggest impact of reasons you don’t trust yourself.
6. Thinking its “all on you”. When your soul inspires you with a grand notion, as soon as you say yes, the universe begins conspiring on your behalf. Trusting your YES to your soul’s calling, immediately bestows alignment onto you and your life. The right people show up, the right doors open, the road rises to meet you. Don’t take my word for it. test it out.
7. Failing to recognize you are a powerful creator. We think we give our power away, but we do not. We cannot. Our power is the life force that is animating our physical body. We forget that this power is the same power that holds up the planets and makes your heart, beat. When we remember the power is inside of us and we can’t be separated from it, we are instantly and immediately feeling more empowered to trust ourselves and the choices we make that shape our lives. When we ignore this power or place it in things outside of ourself, we are then into a pattern of self-betrayal.

We are all spiritual being on an epic human adventure. We have come to this life to grow, learn, explore, and evolve. Trusting ourselves along the journey is the invitation to recognizing ALL of us, our higher self, and our human self. Our soul has the keys to the kingdom. It’s encoded with a dynamic encryption which is our entelechy.

The more we release the hold of our lower, logical, ego-minded selves and begin to follow the higher, wisdom-filled guidance of our souls the more we begin to trust ourselves and our choices, no matter what the outcome.

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